Why the guilt over sex?

[timeandplace]

Ok, been separated 8 weeks and living apart, H left me, he thought I was making him stressed and unhappy. Thought I wasn't enthusiastic with sex and has left me feeling low in self esteem. Our marriage wasn't great for the past few years.

Anyway I suddenly have the urges again to be with a man, not all sexually but for company, movies etc, just closeness as well, but sex would be good!!

But I feel extremely guilty about it, like it is wrong to do as im still married, he through he is talking of getting divorced asap.

It feels like to date and get close to another man is like the final nail in the coffin. I have been speaking with someone and he hugged me today and I paniced!! But I really want to get closed at the same time.

Is it normal?

My urges came back with vengeance when I split up. Still with me.

Really, did they, you see that's what has happened. Sex was nothing special with H, more for his pleasure. But god, it is now like I want closeness, kissing and sex so bad, and I feel so guilty, the old what will people think etc!!

Not that I plan to shout from the roof tops!! But the guilt is still there.

Same. Absolutely overwhelming urges . I just wanted to fuck someone. (I didn't).

I had a nosy around online dating. I wasnt really looking to meet anyone but liked the idea of having someone to go to movies etc with.

Surprised myself by falling for first 'like' first date. Lots of sex, and movies etc. I don't feel guilty in the slightest. Not divorced yet either.

time sounds like your estranged husband is having an affair.

Dh and I rarely had sex, probably once a month and that was a chore, I had a very low sex drive and I guess I didn't really fancy him anymore, just saw him as the father of my children, when we did have sex it was pretty boring.

We split at the beginning of the year and I have to say my sex drive has gone through the roof and now I rarely go a week without sex, I have FWB and do online dating ( I enjoy male company, not just the sex ), I have so much more confidence than I did when I was with dh.

Yep my sex drive came back with a vengeance after splitting with my H.

However I didn't start to date for about 2 years afterwards. Just wasn't mentally or emotionally ready for it.

It's only been 8 weeks OP and I assume you were married for many years. I think it will take some time until your gut feeling catches up with current events.

Time he is having an affair! Go for it. Will do you good

It did my self-esteem the world of good to start OD a couple of months after XH left. After being ground down and feeling unattractive and sexless, suddenly you're getting compliments and people are attracted to you and you find you've still got it.

What other people think doesn't matter in the slightest - they're not you, not in your position and haven't been in your relationship. They shouldn't be judging anyway.

Get out there and enjoy yourself.