Unfulfilling climix

[Shusskabala]

I've just posted on someone else's thread about enjoying the build up to sex, but not getting to the climax so I thought once and for all I'd take the plunge and ask my very own personal sex question.

I love sex, I have regular sex with DH, both oral and vaginal, I also regularly masturbate. But my whole life I've struggled with one thing: climax. I definitely get "there" - as I identify with all the physical signs, but I'm sure my actual orgasm is not as intense as it could or should be and I don't know why. How can I intensify my orgasm? It is all in the mind?

Climax ffs...

Anyone ?

Are you on any medication such as SSRIs, beta blockers, or prescription painkillers?

Do your orgasms all feel like "Oh that was nice. Let's have a cuppa" or is there a scale where some of them feel more intense, others less intense?

Are the orgasms you're having based on vaginal stimulation, or clitoral?

Thanks for replying Pocket, was worried I'd asked a really freak question. I'm not on any medication at all. Orgasms are mainly clitoral but to be honest I'm not sure I've ever had a purely vaginal orgasm nor would I be able to tell the difference. I can "come" very easily though, it's just never really satisfying like I'm sure it is supposed to be.

Do you do the same thing everytime,positions, toys/no toys etc? An orgasim is like everything else,it can get a bit 'meh' after a while if you dont mix it up. I'm not talking drastic changes,if masturbating solo I find even lying flat on my back is a huge difference from my side or front which is different again from sitting up. Personally i'm a big fan of toys,both solo and with my husband. A small cliteral vibrator during intercourse or a rabbit with different functions solo. Sometimes I use porn or erotic fiction (not 50 shades!) others I just let my mind wonder.

My instinct says experimentation is key.

How are your pelvic floor/core muscles? Pilates should improve them snd with it stronger orgasms

Ok (sorry if tmi) so I had a solo attempt without even going near my clitoris, something I never do - and it was definitely more intense, spasms were more prolonged and intense. However good point about pelvic floor. I thought it was all fine (partner never mentioned it feeling any different post childbirth) but a recent experience on a trampoline proved otherwise so I think I should do some more exercises. I've never really been into toys. I remember when I bought a rabbit years ago and hated it because it felt too intense, especially that horrible prongy bit at the tip. Is there anything out there that is more subtle?
When you come though, does anyone get tingling in their feet? That's what I usually get and I get the feeling it sort of starts and ends there and I wish it would rise up my whole body but never does.

I had to google jiggle balls - never heard of them How naive am I! Are you actually supposed to walk around with them in? Sounds like I need to invest in some little toys. Especially as DP is going to be away a lot for the next six months

My fav is bullet vibe in arse, soft dildo in vagina and other hand on nipple, mainly clit contact does make it to intense, quick and like a quick jerk feels nothing and over.