help with sex words list

[wondersofyourbody]

I'm a trainee counsellor and giving my class a short presentation on a sexuality related topic. I thought I'd start it off with getting people to read out different sex-related words from folded pieces of paper to break any fear of embarrassment to start with! Nobody will be forced to read anything out if they don't want to. I've NC'd for this in case any classmate comes on here, but I've been on MN for years.

So, if you were writing a list of sex related words what would be the first few that come to mind (other than beaker )?

How old are the people in the class?

Adults - almost all middle-aged and mainly not familiar with reddit etc

You are using the words to break the ice rather than be relevant to the presentation then? Or is it a presentation about sex?

If the former:
Bonk, shag, etc
...euphemistic words rather than anything too anatomical or graphic

Coitus (TBBT fans will appreciate that)

Fanjo (to out any MNetters)

Junk (ask for synonyms?)

Thanks Momb and Auntie!

The idea is to get people over the embarrassment most of us have with talking about sex, especially in public. We're a smallish group and have studied together for a year and it's a safe place, but this is something new. The talk is going to be on aspects of sexuality I decide to talk about.

There are three goals to this list. First, part of the talk will be looking at consent, so I'm planning that the class pull small folded papers out of a hat with different terms related to sex that we normally wouldn't use in a public conversation (which is quite a lot I guess!) but that everybody has the option not to take a paper and then later, when the time comes to read them, to have the freedom to decline. I did this once in a talk (different group) about the pelvic floor post birth and it loosened everybody up and the discussion afterwards was very productive (second goal).

Third is that while most of us won't go on to be sex therapists, if we're at least comfortable with using words we'd normally only use in private, in public, we'll be able to discuss these topics more comfortably with future clients. So the idea is to push boundaries a bit, but nobody has to say anything they're not comfortable with.

That's all very long! I didn't want to drip feed, but then as you asked I thought I'd give it all!

I love adding fanjo in there! I hadn't got that one!

I'm struggling a bit with this because the pool of potential words here must be several thousand, surely?

I suppose start with the really vulgar words like fuck, cunt, etc? If these are trainee therapists(?) then they're going to hear a lot of those, right?

Not really sure if you're looking for slang or for "technical" words?

Hi Pocket,
Any will do really. After reading above I'm thinking of putting an "easy" one like "shag" or "bonk" with a more "difficult" (in terms of being less likely to be used in polite society!) one like "cock ring" or "rimming" on the paper.

So looking for both really. I am interested in this area, but the more I try to make a list, the less I can come up with, so I thought I'd ask mumsnet for a hand!

I think it works better if you ask them to come up with the words themselves. I did a course at my DCs' school for parents once and we had to come up with as many words as we could in a certain time. We were all sensible mums, but in hysterics at some of the words we came up with. Asking us to read out pre-written ones wouldn't have been half as funny.

Oh that's a great idea too! Saves me work too! Bonus points for that suggestion!

Years and years ago I gave talks to people like social workers, police officers, counsellors etc about HIV infection. I wanted them to be aware that they might not be able to only use technical terms like anal/oral sex, so I did exactly what MarkRuffaloCrumble suggested. It worked well, a real ice breaker and anybody who found it too embarrassing had to face up to the fact that they wouldn't be much help to some clients.

If they're coming up with the words themselves, I find that separating a class into two teams and awarding points in some fashion, really makes it all a lot more fun.

Thanks Misguided and Wesley - I think I'm going to have a lot of fun with this. Can't believe nobody else on the course volunteered for this topic!