Premature ejaculation.

[Smurfette24]

I've name changed for this one..

I started seeing a guy six months ago. I've known him for a very long time and we've always really like each other we just never seemed to be single at the same time.

Now we are and things are going really well, I'm really into him. But the sex is disappointing.

We fool about a bit but once we get to actual penetration he doesn't last for any longer than 2 minutes I'd say. If I try new positions/try to get more involved/make any noise he asks me not to as this will make him come. I just have to lay there.

I feel unable to approach him about it as I know it's a sensitive subject. He's hinted after sex that he understands there is an issue (he said 'I need to learn how to last longer').

I really really like this guy and all other aspects of our relationship are great but I don't think I can live like this forever. I feel awful and shallow but I think sex is important and I'm just not enjoying it as much as I'd like to.

What can I do?

Does he last longer the 2nd time? Have you tried making him cum through 4play, giving him time to recover and then have sex?

I have had this problem with guys who have been single for a long time and it does improve over time but it does sound like this guy always has this problem?

Nevergoing makes a good suggestion, play around first, let it occur the first time and go on for round 2 a little later...

Familiarity, being more used to one another, will probably help too. And if this still doesn't solve the issue, online chemists can provide him with delay sprays which can assist in getting over the mental barrier he has - but he shouldn't get himself to the point where he depends upon them.

Good luck OP.

Cock rings and certain lubes/sprays etc. can help him last longer if he's willing to try them

If I try new positions/try to get more involved/make any noise he asks me not to as this will make him come. I just have to lay there.

Well that sounds thrilling.

I'd say the major problem here is that he's focussing on his ejaculation as the main "point" or "goal" of sex, when it should be about both of you getting pleasure equally.

Unless he's giving you several orgasms before the PIV starts?

You do need to talk about this because it will take a joint effort to work on it.
Lots of good suggestions so far, he also needs to learn techniques to delay his orgasm. I'm sure it's easy to Google the exact method but when he gets close, he needs to stop and squeeze hard under the head of his penis until the sensation subsides. He will need to do that repeatedly to gradually extend the amount of time he can last.

What OddlyLogical said

Most men find that thinking about Margaret Thatcher does the trick.

Dragon delay spray 10 mins before. And a condom. Worked a treat in our house.

There's a drug called Dapoxetine that is licensed for treating premature ejaculation. He should be able to get it from a GP. I remember there was a thread a few months ago from a woman who said she found a packet of them in her teenage son's bedroom. She was shocked when people told her what they are for. .

The main difference between dapoxetine and a delay spray is that with dapoxetine you can still feel the sensation but there is more control before reaching the inevitable point of no return. A spray just numbs the area.
A spray doesn't give you a headache or insomnia though........

have him cum and then get hard again, some guys it seems need to getting the first cum out of the way before lasting longer on round two

I'd recommend going to a sex/masturbation coach. PE can be sorted out relatively quickly if your partner is prepared to put in the work.

Lots and lots of sex, if he comes too quickly, act as if it's nothing to worry about and go again when he's ready, Ie take the pressure off him and have fun in the bedroom, easily solved in a weekend.

I wouldn't suggest getting him to come first as even with a reasonable gap he won't have the same incentive to get you there!

I'd suggest he does some nice stuff for you first, gets you there at least 3 times and then you go for PIV and he can finish as soon as he likes.

My DP spends about an hour pleasuring me first and only when I can't take any more does he get to even think about coming. Otherwise he'd be asleep within moments of his own orgasm and I'd be left hanging!