Viagra - anyone's OH used it?

[nearlyhadenough]

After about 15 years of very little sex due ED, my DH got himself off to the doctor and was prescribed Viagra.

We've used it 4 times now - each time with varying results. The drug has worked in that DH has been able to get and maintain an erection (3 times) for us to have penetrative sex. He has managed to orgasm only once.

I think it was more effective when he had eaten less?

I am also finding it difficult emotionally - with DH saying that I must let him know (actually say - take a tablet) because he doesn't know how to read the signs or have enough initiative to just go and take one and start things with me.

Looking for other people's experiences.....

One of the side affects of viagra can be failing to orgasm.

As for having to tell him that you want him to take a tablet, why not organise a date night every week and stick to it. He can then take the tablet without you telling him and you both know you’re getting some. It’s also possible that the pressure is getting to him. It may be that you may need to prime the pump with some other form of stimulation. DON”T whatever you do let on that it worries you. Relax about it. Try other things. It’s a new toy that hasn’t been working properly so experiment and see what works.

That's a good idea - I will certainly see how DH feels about that, I think it would work.

Friday night is nookie night in this house. DH and I will start things off by reminding each other it's Friday all through the day (nudge,wink). It sets the scene without either of us having to appear desperate. Also gives each other a chance to decline politely if we're really not feeling it. It's great your DH has got help.

Has your DP had his bloods checked. Ideally you need a full set with Testosterone. Ideal nmol value is mid teens to mid 20s. Below 12 is low. It's a common cause of ED and far safer than viagra.

Speaking as an occasional male Viagra user, here's some notes which might include field reports... :)

According to some chums and my personal experience, Viagra is an assistant, and not the tool. In other words, it helps one gain an erection, it doesn't do it for you, so the regular steps one would take toward that still need to be taken. Yes. Foreplay. For everyone I know of who's used it, it doesn't give the patient an instant erection and keep it for the next 4-8 hours, one still needs to work at it a little...

Eating lightly, and perhaps even more importantly, drinking a large glass of water or two definitely helps the digestion of the treatment, gels are better, faster dissolving.

Overdoing the alcohol isn't a great idea and yes, delayed orgasm or inability to reach orgasm can easily happen - one pal had this problem so he halved his dose by the highly technical method of cutting his tablet in half and it worked wonders.

And yes, datenight is a great plan and as mentioned above, keep reminding each other about the plan.

Also, one can buy variations of Viagra online if ones partner doesn't want / too embarrassed to go to the doctor, or even if you just want some to liven up a naughty weekend away. I won't post links, but feel free to pm me.

Lastly, well done to you OP and to hubby, after all that time taking the steps to resolve the issue, good on you, and surely after an extended time of no great success, it'll take a few go's to get back into the correct rhythm won't it? Good luck :)