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Is there any way to tell someone that they're too loud at the point of orgasm?

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JasmineBuckles · 29/08/2015 11:55

DTD with fairly new man for the first time last night, all was going really well, he was a bit of a talkative shag, but nothing unusual. Until he came.

He was so, so loud I actually jumped, and then sort of moaned a bit like a cow REALLY loudly as he finished. This seemed to go on for about a week.

I find the male orgasm a big turn on, but this was sort of off-putting. He knows he's loud as he made a comment about the neighbours. Luckily it's a detached house.

Is there any way of broaching this that could possibly go well? My previous partners have been pretty quiet, and I'm really not a screamer, so this seems a bit OTT.

There's no way of doing this is there?

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queenofthepirates · 29/08/2015 12:03

No, not if you plan on DTD a second time

PotteringAlong · 29/08/2015 12:04

No. No way at all.

Savagebeauty · 29/08/2015 12:06

There is no such thing as being too loud Grin

wafflyversatile · 29/08/2015 12:08

Pretend you're really into ball gags?

Give it a 2nd go and see if it's less off-putting when not a surprise?

Long time ago there was a couple in our flatshare where the woman did this. It was excruciating to listen to when the rest of us were in the living room just a few feet away.

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JasmineBuckles · 29/08/2015 12:13

I thought so to be honest. I'm going to attempt round two, hope he noticed my Hmm face this time and hope for the best.
I can't describe how loud he was, really. It was the loudest orgasm I've ever heard and I've been around the block a bit.
And it was all going so well. FFS

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plantsitter · 29/08/2015 12:21

Perhaps he was just flattering you by demonstrating what an AMAZING orgasm he'd just enjoyed. Give it another go. Otherwise I'm not sure what to suggest apart from the ball gag thing or feigning a fetish for those massive ear defender things (worn by you).

WeAreEternal · 29/08/2015 12:24

Not me but a friend dated a man that mooed like an injured cow when he climaxed. she, like you, was very shocked after their first time and felt the need to tell us all, he was thereafter known as MrMoo.
I had the 'pleasure' of hearing it once when a group of us rented a holiday cottage for a weekend, well I say I, it was that loud the whole house heard, it was very bizarre and amused everyone else immensely.

travellinglighter · 29/08/2015 13:50

As long as the neighbours don’t hear and you know it’s coming then you can probably get used to it.

Plantsitter

I used to live in a flat where the chap next door had a very (cough) active social life. In his little social circle there were at least three different characters with walk on(lie down??) parts. I could tell which one was currently getting the good news by the noises they made. There was the religious one (oh god, oh god, oh god), Tourettes syndrome (fuck, fuck, fuck, fuuuucckk) and monkey noises. It sounds funny but I genuinely couldn’t sleep because of his antics. the lucky git

Nevergoingtolearn · 29/08/2015 19:16

I think I would find it a big turn on Grin, most men don't make a sound, I have been with one guy who made a noise and I loved it as it made me feel as if I was doing something right as he was obviously enjoying himself.

Don't tell him to be quiet, maybe try and be noisy too xx

gaggiagirl · 29/08/2015 19:26

Don't tell him to be quiet! It'll put him off his stride if he's worried about volume.
Sounds like a massive turn on to me though, I would like it.

noisytoys · 30/08/2015 15:58

Reminds me of the Avenue Q lyrics:

You can be as loud as
The hell you want
When you're making love!

You're not allowed to be loud
At the library
At the art museum
Or at a play
But when you and your partner
Are doing the nasty
Don't behave like you're
At the ballet!
Cause you can be as loud as
The hell you want
When you're making love

You can be as loud as
The hell you want
When you're making love

Don't let the neighbours
Stop you from havin' fun,
They'll have peace and quiet
When you’re good and done.

OpiesOldLady · 31/08/2015 10:57

Maybe, discretely put a pillow over his head at point of orgasm? Grin

I have to admit, I don't come quietly. At all. My fella has been known to put a hand over my mouth to shush me, or as pp suggested, get a good gag.

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JasmineBuckles · 31/08/2015 13:37

I'm attempting round two later. Will report back re noise levels. Maybe now I'm expecting it, it won't be so bad.
I've had years and years of quiet partners, my last LTR didn't make a sound. I'm quite quiet too, it was a massive shock.

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LoisPuddingLane · 31/08/2015 21:39

I think people who are REALLY LOUD are putting it on a bit. Would they make the same noises, mooing like a herd of cows in labour, if they were having a wank on their own? I somehow doubt it.

BathshebaDarkstone · 31/08/2015 21:44

noisytoys I'd forgotten that one from Avenue Q! I agree with every word! Grin

thehypocritesoaf · 31/08/2015 21:46

I dunno why people are too nervous to say - blimey that's loud. Tone it down a bit.
I would/have.

ItsOnlyACake · 31/08/2015 23:54

I prefer loud to silent definitely! Grin

AlfAlf · 01/09/2015 00:01

This is hilarious Grin

On the bright side, you must be really good in bed.

Reckon I'd find it a bit off putting tbh. Does he have his mouth open for this? Could you try kissing him to shut him up a bit? Maybe make a few mmmm noises and see if he mirrors you?

DixieNormas · 01/09/2015 00:04

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thehypocritesoaf · 01/09/2015 06:49

The idea that because a partner is shrieking or bellowing you must be good in bed is ridiculous but does explain why some people like to make lots of noise thinking it's a compliment.

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JasmineBuckles · 01/09/2015 10:21

Round two was last night. He was tired/hungover so I was hoping maybe he'd tone it down a bit or we'd just have a token hungover shag.
No such luck. I think he was louder than last time, but at least I was prepared for it. Afterwards, I did say, bloody hell you are really, really loud when you come.
He sort of laughed, and said oh I know, sorry. I've always been the same. He's 42. I think it's either learn to love it or stop seeing him, which is a shame as he's actually a really good, generous fuck.

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Eekaman · 04/09/2015 00:44

No advice I'm afraid, other than the pillow trick, but that could go wrong... :/

I once heard a female neighbour of mine years ago being murdered, or so it seemed. I thought it was possibly just her being loud, but it wasn't like anything I'd ever heard before, it was pretty scary, so I actually went and knocked on her door, I had to make sure she was ok.

She definitely hadn't been murdered and she looked pretty flushed when she opened the door :) And she looked such a prim and proper type too, so good on her for having such fun.

Lucked · 04/09/2015 00:58

I wonder if the OPs mooer and weareeternals friends MrMoo are the same man!

I think being really loud is off putting, I mean it takes a lot of effort to make a loud noise so I kind of think it's deliberate and I feel like they are acting.

Do people who are loud makes as much noise when they masturbate? How did you ever get through the teenage years of living with mum and dad?

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JasmineBuckles · 06/09/2015 15:42

DTD this morning, he had house guests. He managed to come quietly! It looked like it took some serious effort and some breath-holding, but he did do it.

This cheers me up, as at least now I know he can be quiet when necessary. Given that he lives alone, in a detached house, I suppose he can make as much noise as he likes!

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LoisPuddingLane · 09/09/2015 10:19

Do people who are loud makes as much noise when they masturbate?

Exactly. It's all a bit showy offy.

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