Boyfriend likes me to be dominant, I'm quite new to this

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Namechanged for this.

Boyfriend of a couple of months has told me he likes me to be dominant, tell him what to do, punish him, maybe tie him up ...

We don't live close by, so have only had sex once, just normal stuff, although I always tend to like being in charge, so not going to be a problem, I've just not been with anyone who likes it that much before.

We've been phoning and texting and it got pretty steamy last night. He definitely liked the way it went, that was basically me telling him what to do, making him wait, teasing him ...

Anyone enjoy this sort of sex too and can give me some suggestions for (pain free) punishment of a light hearted nature? We don't want to get into pain or proper bondage, although he likes the thought of being tied up with scarves and wearing a blindfold.

I'm just not sure what to punish him for, how to punish him. What to make him do ... I really want to make it great sex, because we're both enjoying it so much.

He's quite a bit younger than me, but I don't want to get into the "call me mummy" thing. I've been looking at some toys, because I think he'll like anal play too.

I'm not trolling, genuinely hoping for some suggestions, as I've not done this before but am enjoying the thought.

Wally that's made me laugh!!

,Guilty my dd got one stuck in her ear and had to go to hospital. Be warned

why not send him to Sri Lanka to WORK on a tea plantation?

Probably not as bad as a bloke getting one stuck down his dick

Your DP wouldn't be called Jeffrey would he? He's got a bit of a thing about men being treated badly by women at the moment!

Thanks Guilty.

Now we've "played" a few times, I think he likes being told what to do, but nothing too weird, mainly to do with sex, so "you can lick but not touch" sort of thing.

Hi op

There something erotic in being teased I think, anticipation is a powerful tool.

Yes the teasing seems to be a hit! Just don't want to end up saying and doing the same thing every time.

The simplest things are the most effective, most household paraphernalia can be useful. The dominatrix's fave shop used to be B&Q

But I agree that coming up with different scenarios all the time can be mentally exhausting. It might be a time to discuss how often he is expecting this type of role play, and how often your willing to play along.

Straight forward loving sex is always the most erotic I find, and I've played on both sides of the spectrum.

Thanks "Guilty"

Agree, we need to talk about things like that. It's difficult when we're apart all the time, it's nearly 2 weeks til I'll see him again .. Then we can discuss things.

Try Dumb Domme's website for inspiration

Thanks Hermione, I'll have a look.