Losing control

[2tootwoEmbarrassed]

I've been around for 10 years but name changed for obvious reasons. 2 children, divorce, new partner but don't live together.
Sex previously was dull & uneventful. Now it is fulfilling and wonderful. However last week during orgasm (not penetrative) I pooed myself :(
Now I'm so embarrassed & worried it will happen again. I'm not sure if he noticed TMI warning- more a smear than a lump but still awful. We were on a rug & I quickly crumpled it up but the smell I'm sure gave it away...
Please reassure me I'm not the only one this has happened to. I need a hand hold!

Oh my god, poor you!

Poor thing. But don't let it ruin your mood going forward because it's hard to orgasm when you are concentrating on clenching!

I find at times, apols if this is tmi, but I don't evacuate as effectively as I used to before DS came along.

I have bought a special device on Lovehoney to clean out the area which makes me feel more confident about the potential for this to happen before dtd.

I did this because I had a massive orgasm alone when my new sex toy arrived and I came so hard I literary sh*t myself. And believe me, it wasn't a discreet mark on the rug.

On the positive side even if he did notice it might be a massive ego boost that you could let yourself go so hard and orgasm so strongly with him!

On the positive side even if he did notice it might be a massive ego boost that you could let yourself go so hard and orgasm so strongly with him!

I would literally never take a man shitting during sex as a compliment

Oh thank you! For the sympathy and for sharing. Nothing is going to stop me being embarrassed but company is good. I'm off to investigate a certain website!

Make sure you are getting enough fibre and staying hydrated to help keep you regular. That should help along with the peace of mind that can come from anal douching.

Actually my ex husband did once too, while we were using Chinese beads.

Not the reason he's my ex though.

I've done this, I cried and cried and was mortified. That was years ago. We have had many mistakes over the years. That's sex. I still clench and hold back I think tho but it happens. If you want to let go then you have to let go of everything I think.

I'm so annoyed with my body at such times, let's me down too. Not lost total bowel control but 8x out of 10 these days I'll let one off, and not quietly either . Lucky my BF is lovely about it. Must say though, orgasms seem stronger than in younger days, though if it happens at the start of one,it cuts it dead pretty fast which is disappointing.
No answer other than getting used to it and doing best to ignore. I doubt douching would stop wind.

I've done this before! I think a lot of people have but obviously it's not the sort of thing you discuss with friends, really Sex is a messy, undignified, often smelly business when you get right down to it!

Smorgasboard I used to have the farting during orgasm thing as well. I once let one off so loudly when my partner was giving me oral that he literally jumped into the air! I have switched my diet to exclude most grains and that has really helped.

A butt plug can help too, and gives the most enhanced orgasms for me.

And I'm not exactly encouraging men to jump on their partners chest and curl one out for a round of applause am I?

But if I had a make partner who was so excited and aroused in the moment that a small accident might happen I'd be really ok.

If he cleared up.

It literally wouldn't bother me one bit if this happened to a partner. If it happened to me I might worry for a bit but if they didn't seem to care I'd find it easy to get over.
It's not shameful, it's fine, don't worry!