bi curious, should I act on it?

[midnightblues567]

Hey all,

Had to name change for this.

I have been single for a year now and just recently I'm thinking of going on dates with women. I don't consider my self as a lesbian, but I'm definely bi-curious. Ive definely had those feelings of wanting to
have sex with a woman since I was quite young, but I'm now 22, single, so I guess why not.

I'm not sure if I would want a relationship with a woman, but then again I just don't want no random hook up. I want to go on dates and see how it goes . But I'm not sure if I just want a physical thing or for something to develop. I'm very confused. I would definitely want to experience having sex with a woman with no strings attached, but I'm not sure if I could handle that...: I'm just very confused... How do I go about this?

Well I was in your position 3 years ago. I knew I wanted to have a sexual experience with a woman, but didn't know if I could handle the ' just sex' thing either. On the other hand, I couldn't imagine being in a relationship with a woman , so was completely torn. Anyway, loooooong story short, I met my now gf, initially just for a bit of fun, but very quickly feelings developed and we're still together. Just goes to show, you never really know, so sometimes just go with the flow

Yes, why not indeed. You're single and there's no reason why you shouldn't at least experiment.

since I was quite young You're still young now from this old gimmer's perspective

If you want to do it, do it. I would put a profile up on one of the dating sites - there's a fair amount of gay and bi women on the main sites like POF and OKCupid. Be honest and set your profile to "casual dating" or "short term dating" so you're not giving the wrong impression that you're looking for a life partner at this stage.

Be aware that there are less women who are attracted to women so don't just sit and wait for the messages to come to you - send some of your own!

You might find you fall in love - or you might decide you're not really attracted to women after all. But I think if you don't explore the possibilities, you'll probably regret it.

just warning, if you put that youre bicurious etc on a dating site, you will be more likely inundated with threesome requests, rather than single women

Bran, good point. Maybe just say you're bi. If you decide in the end you're not, then it's no big deal.

Just try it out and see how you feel. Don't see it as goal orientated but do what you feel comfortable/happy with and be clear with the women you date what is going on in your head as you don't want to mess with people's heads!

Of course you should act on it. And who knows. It could be the start of something.

I would say go for it, there are sites you can go on and block couples and men messaging you :) You dont have to commit to anything. I wouldnt class myself as a lesbian or even bi but im very curious and had some fantastic sexual experiences with women, but like with any sex ther does have to be some attraction and compatability x

Yes. If you don't try you won't know, if you don't know you'll always wonder what if.

Yes! You should act on it :) have fun!

Definitely act on it... you're young and single, what have you got to lose?
If the online thing doesn't work you need to confide in a like-minded or open-minded friend who will go with you to a gay bar... not the easiest places (they can be quite clicky) but at least you can have a look at who's out there with some moral support. Have fun x