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Is the normal?

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TheTortoiseAteMyHomework · 31/07/2015 08:58

I need a bit of reassurance please.

I am in my mid 20's and have just entered into my first sexual relationship. I love dp and although I can't say sex has been great fun so far (I know it will get better) we are finding our rhythm.

The problem I have is, after we have dtd I find I bleed quite a lot. We have only dtd about 6 or 7 times now, but is this normal? I expected it on the first penatration, but surely it should stop now?

Absolute novice here.

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ROARmeow · 31/07/2015 09:22

Are you in discomfort during sex? Are you well-lubricated and horny when your DP penetrates you? Is sex rough?

Sorry for lots of questions, just trying to get bigger picture.

I've bled maybe a handful of times in 14 years of being sexually active, usually when we've gone a bit rough Wink

If it's sore during then stop, or change position till it's comfy.

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TheTortoiseAteMyHomework · 31/07/2015 09:30

It hurts a bit to start with but we move into more comfortable positions, dp is very attentive to my needs and makes sure I am ready and relaxed. We also use extra lube. Dp is very gentle but can be a bit rough towards climax.

Once into it I do enjoy it and the discomfort ends quickly.

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MillieGreenEyes · 31/07/2015 17:56

I would get that checked out by the doctor... just to be sure

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 31/07/2015 19:15

Are you sore the next day? If you are then you need to be much more ready and he need yo be more gentle. Bleeding quite a lot imo ( not a doctor ) would mean he is either being too rough, you're not ready or there's something that needs checking out. Personally I'd see the doctor about it.

I've only bled once or twice and it's after we've been 'enthusiastic .'Wink

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TheTortoiseAteMyHomework · 31/07/2015 19:23

Nor sore the next day at all. Just have the blood. It's red and fresh if that makes a difference and I'm two weeks off my period.

I'm going to book an appointment next week to get it checked. sigh

Thank you all for your input. Flowers

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 31/07/2015 19:24

Best to get it checkedSmile

pocketsaviour · 01/08/2015 12:20

Yes do get it checked - it sounds like you might have a little tear somewhere. You could also try changing positions to begin with to see if that helps, e.g. start with you on top. I have always found that most comfortable, then move into different positions once you're "warmed up" - not in the sense of being horny, but just that your vagina's had a chance to stretch a bit and get used to the penetration.

Bit of a personal question but had you ever used dildos or anything before getting a partner? I never had (was told masturbation was horribly shameful and disgusting Hmm ) and had trouble even using tampons and my first few times were very painful. First time looked like a crime scene! I think I continued to bleed for 2-3 times after, and I have been told since that my hymen may not have fully broken on the first go.

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TheTortoiseAteMyHomework · 01/08/2015 13:49

The sex board is all about being personal Grin

No I have never used dildos before and had the same sort of issues with tampons at first.

Dp and I have decided we shall experiment a bit this weekend Grin to see if as you have suggested different positions etc might help.

I will still make an appointment on Monday, I'm due a smear test anyhow. Joy.

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UnsolvedMystery · 02/08/2015 12:00

Do you know where you are bleeding from? Is it your vaginal opening or could it be internal?
If it is from your vaginal opening, then that sounds more like a preparation issue and should not happen. It sounds like he is doing all the right things to help, but he might need to do a bit more.
I wonder if the bleeding is coming from your cervix. That would explain why you are not sore the next day. It is quite common. Get it checked by your GP but it probably isn't anything serious.

Nevergoingtolearn · 04/08/2015 08:41

Unsolved is right, it could be coming from your cervix if you are not in pain, I get this ( also get it after a smear test or if I strain on the loo ).

There's also a chance you have a smal tear and each time you have sex you are disturbing it before it's had time to heal. When I first started having sex I found it quite painful and bled for the first few times, it took quite a while before it was enjoyable.

UnsolvedMystery · 04/08/2015 10:49

It doesn't have to be a small tear. I have cervical erosion, it's a hormonal thing. The slightest touch on my cervix and it bleeds so we have to be very careful on some positions.
I've had it for years and it has been checked - it's nothing to worry about, it's just a bit annoying!

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TheTortoiseAteMyHomework · 04/08/2015 11:38

Well the doctor seems to think I have a tear and to just keep an eye on it for a couple of weeks. If carries on I'll have to get it checked further.

Extra lube and taking it gently for a little bit.

Thanks everyone. Flowers

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/08/2015 12:11

Oh that makes sense,glad it's nothing sinister.Smile

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TheTortoiseAteMyHomework · 05/08/2015 10:27

Hey ladies,

Back again as having a flap.

Dtd last night. Took on all advice, took it easy, lube, different positions. I had a bit of blood afterwards but not too much.

Then...this morning I went to the toilet and here was loads of blood. So much I was convinced I had come on early as I am a heavy bleeder. So no panic, plugged it up and got on with he day.

Just went to change my tampon and there is no menstrual blood. Just a dotting of left over blood from earlier.

I'm back to freaking out. This time the amount was so much more. Should I go back to the doctors or wait the two weeks he suggested? Confused

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UnsolvedMystery · 05/08/2015 10:43

Did the Dr examine you externally and internally?
The amount of blood sounds much more like it is coming from your cervix.

mayaknew · 05/08/2015 10:50

Op if I were in your position I would book an appointment with my practice nurse and ask her to do an internal examination Dan smear just to be safe . Mine is really good and knows a lot about sexual health .

Agree it sounds like a tear but me being me I would need to know for sure Smile

Also maybe try non-penetrative activities for a few nights and see if you notice a difference when you dtd again ? Might give it some time to heal ? Smile

Battleshiphips · 05/08/2015 10:51

Sounds like it's further up maybe the cervix as others have mentioned. I had cervical erosion and that caused bleeding. Did you have an internal examination? Might be worth going in again. Or do you maybe have a women's drop in anywhere near you.

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TheTortoiseAteMyHomework · 05/08/2015 10:57

Dr didn't examine me at all. Just chatted through what had been going on and said it sounded like a tear, but to go back in two weeks if the problem persisted.

I think we will give it a rest for a few nights and see if that helps at all.

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ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 05/08/2015 11:03

I think you need to have your cervix checked

goshdarnit · 05/08/2015 11:18

You could go to your local CASH (contraception and sexual health clinic) and ask them to check you out. I have always found the nurses there to be kind, gentle, informative and totally un-fazed by any questions you may have. Good luck!

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TheTortoiseAteMyHomework · 05/08/2015 11:19

Thanks all, I think I'll find a local clinic and pop in.

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Joystir · 29/05/2016 21:28

could be a cervical erosion, possibly caused by being on the pill

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