would you invite a 'professional' to teach you and your partner?

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We've been together 6 years, we were each others first sexual partner and as a consequence we don't have a clue what we're doing! I find sex boring, and want to know how to enjoy it - he turns me on, but even after foreplay when I'm desperate as soon as we proceed there's nothing. I have been thinking of having a threesome with an escort who could show us a thing or two, I do better with practical lessons rather than books/videos. Has anyone done this or have an alternate suggestion?

You could do that. Just have a think how you will feel watching someone else satisfy your partner. The escort could blow his mind with their experience, would that cause a problem?

I think I would start with books and videos to be honest!
Experiment a bit to find out what feels good.
Am I right in assuming that you are enjoying some of the foreplay and getting turned on, but find intercourse doesn't do anything for you?
Are you able to orgasm by any means at all?

There might be some more clearly legal options. If you are in or near London, you could look at classes offered by some of the posh sex toy shops, eg
www.sh-womenstore.com/classes.html#
(this second one includes NSFW picture)
www.coco-de-mer.com/body-gifts/erotic-education/salons/

I daresay there are probably options in other parts of the country (ooh, even that sounds rude now...), things like tantric sex classes have been around for decades but I don't know how people find reputable ones.

OP, don't do this. An escort and a threesome is fine if your relationship is brilliant but with the sex side of your relationship not being right for you, it could end up in tears.
Anyway, it's not something that can be taught really, it's what you experience.
You can learn that you like something through experimentation which sounds the practical suggestion you were looking for.
Relax and let your hair down a bit, maybe watch some porn together and be daring.

Er nah.

Did you never read 'the joy of sex' when you were babysitting younger cousins? It's all there.

When I were a lass (poss late 80s?), the Lover's Guide came out on video and I remember it being really good, very erotic but also quite practical. God knows if the ones on ebay are actually the 'original' series but that sort of thing is worth a try.

Something else that was quite nice with a past partner was each separately writing a list of things we'd like to try, then talking about the lists together (and of course testing out one of the things...)

Incidentally, if you're doing something that makes you feel fantastic/desperate, why not just keep doing that, rather than something else?

I've only ever been with my DH and vice versa and after over 20 years of marriage it just gets better and better. I don't think a "professional" is what you need really.

I agree practice makes perfect.

Watch some porn ( but research first ), there are some less hardcore porn videos which could give you ideas of things to try. I don't think I would be comfortable with someone giving my partner lessons.

I really don't think this is a good idea when you're already dissatisfied with your sex life. Additionally escorts tend to be focused on male pleasure, which I'm assuming isn't the main problem here.

Sexual preferences are a very individual thing and what gets one woman off is not necessarily going to get you off, anyway.

It sounds like the foreplay is working for you, but once you transition to PIV, you're not getting anything out of it? this isn't unusual - the majority of woman can't orgasm through penetrative sex.

What positions are you trying? You probably need one where you are able to get to your clitoris to either manually stimulate it or use a toy - bullet or vibrator, whatever is your preference. You could also try a cock ring, perhaps?

Either that, or make sure you orgasm first through foreplay, and make PIV the dessert. Are you able to come through foreplay, or only on your own?

Good Lord no! Buy yourself a copy of The Joy of Sex and experiment.

Male or female escort?

Good question, male or female prostitute? Straight male prostitutes are pretty thin on the ground, because there's pretty much no market for them. As a PP said, a female will be all about what's going to get him off. And unlikely she'll have any more prowess in the bedroom than any other random stranger. And a paid companion is going to be faking everything with you and DP, so you won't learn anything anyway.

You know yourself best. I'd start with telling/showing him how you like to be touched. Again, a random stranger won't magically know your body better than you do. Do you mind me asking what about sex you find boring? Is it just the PIV bit? Maybe he goes on for too long? If it's a case of not orgasming through PIV, he can get you off first. Maybe introduce a few clit stim. toys.

But I really don't think throwing another person into the mix will help you improve your sex life. Opening a whole can of worms there.