Sexual confidence, especially after having kids

[littleraysofsunshine]

How do you keep this aspect? Or bring it back?

It took me years to feel sexually confident after having my kids, mainly because I didn't like my body and and was tired all the time, but as time went on, and the children slept, my libido returned and I started to feel better about myself. I'm now in my early fifties and have never felt sexier! How old are you kids?

I think women are far more critical of their bodies than men are.
If your husband/partner loves you, then he will just want you, and if you have a few extra pounds and a network of stretch marks, he's not going to care.
I think confidence is one of the sexiest things.

I found it helped to spend a bit of time pampering myself. A soak in the bath, manicure, haircut - whatever makes you feel good.
Sleep really helps - it's hard to give when you are exhausted.
Make time - if you can get a babysitter occasionally, do so, if not, wait until they've gone to bed.
Talk to each other - tell him how you feel. A decent man will tell you how good you look and how much he loves you.
Look after each other - increase the affection, send each other sexy love notes. Work on keeping that side of your relationship alive.