DH and I watched 50 shades last night

[NotAnotherNewNappy]

I was expecting a night of passion afterwards... But tbh we both felt too embarrassed and uncomfortable about the grooming and EA of drippy anastasia steel. I fear it will lead a run of lights off and missionary only action. So disappointed, I'd just about got DH interested in a bit of light BDSM

May I suggest a film called secretary. It's by no means perfect but I found it a better representation of a bdsm relationship and certainly turned by DP head towards trying out more things.... we're proper kinky buggers now

ohh i loved secretary.

50 shades is the most appalling film i have ever watched. I only get to go to the cinema every few months due to babysitting etc and was gutted I wasted my night off on it!

I haven't watched it for fear of cringe and putting the Boss off being a Boss. I'm also in fear of wiping my sub tendencies with it so I think it will stay firmly avoided.

ooohh, plus, I'll just spend a few weeks lamenting that we don't have a pent house, helicopter, convenient toy room and he doesn't fill my wardrobe with stunning designer clothes (often, he does sometimes, when I'm really good ).

Loved Secretary.

Another vote for the secretary

Not bothering with the grey films I read all the books, despite hating them, just to shut up the people who said oh the 2 and 3 are better books , so I read them so I can truly say, it dosen't get any better,

I hated the books (even tho I did get thru all 3!!) because of the EA aspect. I was in an EA marriage at the time. Haven't bothered with the movie as generally they are not as good as the books.... and they were shit!!

It's the EA that I really couldn't stand from the very little i read of 50shades. No idea why so many women love it... Each to their own I guess

Yes! "Secretary"!!!

Secretary is fab, its on netflix at the moment

Secretary is a fantastic film.

Yes to Secretary
Burn 50 Shades of shit

Why is secretary so good? My dp says it's brilliant, but when I heard about the content, I was a bit concerned as to why she liked it so much She says it's actually quite romantic..... Yes? No?

It is quite romantic... 2 people coming to terms and accepting who they are even though it's against the norm.

But how for against "the norm"?

*far

Well I mean they're hardly walking around the streets wearing latex and a dog collar but let's not.forget that prior to 50 shades bdsm of any description was seen as the interest of perverts and weirdos which me and dp totally are

I think it's best to watch it for yourself, and draw your own conclusions from it. You may enjoy it you may not. It's hard to describe. They are quite extreme characters.

For me I can see the romantic side and sexual anticipation and self control. they are lonely people because of how they feel in general about with life. They find consolidation in each other.

I love that while James spaders character (the true Mr grey imo) Is controlling he is so vulnerable as well and she takes control by giving him control iyswim.

I found 50 shades quite upsetting actually, I wasn't expecting that, hadn't read the book. I went with a group of girls who mostly all seemed to like it except one like me who was a bit what upset me too was the groups of young teens in the cinema....when I was that age I was exposed to films showing respectful relationships mostly, nothing like this, it wasn't until much later that I realised that coercion could even be a thing in a relationship and it really hurt me then, so at that age....

I found "Boy meets Girl" on Netflix really sweet and hot at the same time :) (sorry, vv. vanilla but oh well! beauty is in the subtlety!)

Velour i might try boy meets girl!

one of the better films I've seen this year, if a bit schmaltzy in parts, but def give it a go yeah :) basically everyone important in it is decent and human and kind