Post Marriage split sex

[Balders74]

I split from my H 6 months ago. Our sex life was almost non-existent, maybe once or twice a year for the last 3 or 4 years. This was mainly because he put on a lot of weight and developed diabetes & self image problems. And as shallow as it sounds, I didn't find it attractive & it was hard work.

Anyway, since we split my libido has reappeared & would love to have sex again. The thing is that I have not been with anyone else or 16 years & I too am a very different shape since my single days.

I also don't seem to have much opportunity to meet anyone. I work from home & I don't go out socially at all. I really don't fancy the hook up sites.

I am keeping myself happy at the moment but wondered if anyone has any suggestions for getting my sex on??

P.s. Just read through the vanilla sex thread & it scared the living bejesus out of me!

I came out of a 23yr relationship in September last year. Our sex life was healthy right up to the end (only thing we had left in common).

I had sex with someone different in March, it wasn't as weird as I expected it to be. I'm 48 an have had 2 kids so my body is not perfect but once we were in the heat if the moment I didn't care.

Hook up sites aren't for me as I am much more attracted to personality than physical appearance, but there's plenty of them out there.

I came out of a 15 year marriage, sexless (for me at least) for the last 5 years.

I decided I wanted to 'take a lover'. Met him through OLD (I recommend joining the dating thread on here for advice and support). We have a level of commitment, are exclusive, intimate, affectionate, respectful, amazing sex but none of the complications of real life or expectations of a relationship. Sex is often in the day when the kids are at school, or sneaking away to hotels or the odd weekend away. (We are both single, both have kids living with us). The kids don't know, the XH doesn't know. It is fabulous.

That sounds fabulous Good. I suppose when I am ready it will happen.

How exciting good

And in the meantime there is Lovehoney.com

Hi Balders

After exiting an EA marriage with rubbish sex I now have an arrangement very much like good - we also met via OLD.

I recommend you get yourself over to the Dating thread. The beauty of your situation (although I know your stbxh doesn't have the dc a lot) is that you can make a new relationship on your terms. Get out there and good luck!

My ex cheated on me and we split up after 19 years been single for almost 3 years now and no sex

Don't write off the hook up sites OP.

I found myself 4 decent professional FWB on them. None of them had dicks on display. I ignored messages that came from those who did.

My experience was that I was inundated with messages as there were more guys on there than girls. I really could take my pick.

Have fun finding your next adventure. Enjoy the buzz of meeting up with someone for the first time after coming out of a long term relationship.