Way to make husband realise I'm really horny?

[Anon15]

we've had sex only once since January, (re:childbirth issues).

I'm up in bed, he's downstairs watching TV and my god, I'm sexually frustrated.

Last few nights I've started to kiss him suggestively in bed but he just goes to sleep.

We've been together for 11 years and went through a stage of not having sex for 2 years and I'm worried it will go that way again.

We've never talked dirty, or say exactly what we want in bed, so I'm thinking how can I go about telling him I need a shag, and soon?

Thought about sending him a whatsapp of some sexy undies and fluffy handcuffs and seeing what his response is? He's always initiated sex, I never have so feel embarrassed

My God, I feel like a virginal teenager xx

Well done anon. Sounds like a success. Well mine didn't go so good as yours although least we are moving forward in right direction. We had a very nice hour of foreplay but he couldn't penetrate. He kind of lost the mojo a bit with the condom. It didn't matter too much but we awoke at 4.30 this morning and just enjoyed ourselves sleepily for a while. I think he just needs to get his confidence back up. He is nearly 50. Sorry for hi jacking the thread anon.

Dirty txts, dirty pics and passionate touching and kissing usually does the trick

I know what it's like OP - I've had a few gynae issues and DH is so terrified of hurting me, bless him. I don't know if this would work with you but I find just ignoring it does work (though j know that's not the usual advice!) If I bring up his fear of it all it just seems to compound with him. If I'm ahem rather sluttu and flirty in messages throughout the day it tends to get him into a place where he's convinced it's not an issue for me so shouldn't be for him. And when he does go 'are you sure you're alright', I don't say 'lets talk about your worries' but more a 'shut up and just take me '. Might not work with your DH but I've certainly found 'just getting on the horse' works better with mine than talking it out and compounding the issues. I know he's a good guy and if I had a single twinge I wasn't comfortable with during then I would stop him. Once he realised that, things got a bit easier.

Also - know that this is the most overused advice ever - but if you need a bit of a reset button, is there any way you could foist DCs onto friends/auntie/GPS for a bit and slope off to a hotel? Even a travelodge if £ is tight. Then you can get back into the swing of things and try and keep up the momentum when you get home...

Sorry for typos, bloody phone...