Is too much time passed

[Bluepetal1]

i wrote on another thread that I'm in a sexless marriage and that I miss it terribly. I admit I was not bothered about if for years but I have become very highly sex driven again recently. One of the reasons I went off it was dh does not look after himself and I really lost attraction to him sexually. He had not changed in this regard unfortunately but I could try and move past that. We are great friends though and have a ok famy life and separating is not really an option.
I'm wondering is it to late to rekindle what we did have years ago or are we so far gone that it's too late. I'm wondering if I was too start being intimate with him again would it get me over the hump where I would want him more iykwim.
He is not aware that I'm feeling like this at all. And if I do want to try how the hell do I even start the ball rolling as it would feel so awkward. We do share a bed and he would throw the arm around me occasionally . Sorry if this is a bit scatty

I don't think it's too late, you do need to talk to him though, it's probably a vicious circle of not getting sex so not bothering about looking after himself, maybe if you show interest then he might start looking after himself a bit more and make more of an effort?

Thanks for reply . We both lost our way I suppose, it used to irritate me that he would just think a quick feel and kiss would turn me on and he come to bed after a cigarette and not shower so I stopped putting out . It then just became a bad habit that went on and kids were young and it was easier not too plus I really couldn't be bothered. But recently I think I really miss it and feel a void. I could get it elsewhere but don't want to go down that route.

Does he not miss it either. I think some sessions at relate would help with the lack of good communication in your marriage and then some sex therapy.

Good luck. I hope it canbe salvaged. Sex oils the wheels of a good relationship.