orgasm?!

[kitkat1989]

hi all

but tmi... have been with dh for 6 years now and am really ashamed to say hes never given me an orgasm :/ its not that hes bad at sex i just find that i cant relax enough during sex to get to that point plus sex only ever lasts 5/10 minutes for some reason

i can get myself there no problem its just dh aarrggh!

anybidy else have this?

It depends what you mean by orgasm... there are different varieties of it apparently...

the contractions G spot one I've only had a few times, from behind and also on a mattress that my BF at the time said his brother (we were staying in his DB's empty flat) was 'good for fucking on'. It was a firm/hard mattress if that makes a difference.

I get a bit tired of the relaxation advice - OP probably does need to relax and not have him stare at her but I'm totally relaxed and comfortable with my husband but still never orgasm unless I do it myself. Have tried loads of different things, he's a great and considerate lover but I can only do it myself. I can cum loads - 30 times in an hour is the record (yes, really)...so long as I do it myself.

I do really enjoy sex though, I just see an orgasm as something I do for me, and a 'filling' as the hubby's job i enjoy both, but differently. So there's no pressure, but it still aint happening.

I can't either if alone I can in a very short period of time but even showing dh where to go etc it's just never quite right, I get all built up right to the edge and them I slide back down without completion

same here, soooooooo very close and then nope, fades away.

I'm glad it's not just me!

In fact, no I'm not, it's crap

It's nice to know it's not just you but at the same time, yeah, it's crap. I don't know if it's cos I'm maybe thinking about it too much iykwim? It was easier before I had kids, now it's just impossible - though I'm more sensitive now

It must be a mental thing for me, I can sort myself out no problem I can sometimes get myself off during sex too, but although it's nice, it's definitely a case of getting myself off - it takes more time and effort than doing it completely alone. No matter what my partner tries I can never quite get all the way there.

Yep completely get where you're coming from

With a bit of experimentation recently I've made an interesting discovery.

I realised that I have a tendency to hold my breath when I'm getting near and became suspicious that this was dulling my response. If I make sure I keep breathing the difference it makes is incredible!

It stands to reason really as I think that more oxygen means blood flowing more readily to the right places (my science understanding if naff so I'm prepared to be corrected on this!)

"im alwayz really put off cos he just watches me!"

Can't you do it in the dark?? Mind you, I can't even put my phone charger in in the dark, so good luck