Calling all teachers! Is there a problem with living slap bang next door to a pupil?

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Because that is what DH has discovered will be the case when we move. He's a bit ambivalent about it. Does that mean the end to drunken parties in the garden? No more noisy adventurous sex on the trampoline? No more yelling at the children?

I'm not neccessarily saying that all or any of those go on currently of course But has any found this situation to be difficult.

Ooh... and is there a risk of the parent sticking their head through the privet demanding impromptu parental consultation sessions.

A non-issue then?

It can be a problem, it depends on the child/family and also the position in school.

I live round the corner from school, so loads of kids know where I live and there are quite a lot that live in our road. But I've never ever had any problems whatsoever.

But I know of other people who have had serious (criminal) problems at home. Tbh though I think that's less likely to come from direct neighbours.

Thanks roisin. He's a 12yr old with quite severe behavioural problems - which is why he's at DH's school. But Dh doesn't actually teach him atm so probably won't be an issue.

Were you really 'Calling all Teachers' at 2,30pm?
Most of us were teaching.
Yes, it can be a problem, depends on the child and the family. Nosiness can be a real pain.
Set the rules as necessary, definitely no to advice, chat and school stuff unless on school premises.
For the rest of it, unless you break the law, you can do what you like. They have no more right to complain than any other neighbours.

He may often have pupils living in the area, but the 12 yr old will leave in 4 years and you'll be there much longer, so don't get rid of the trampoline

Thanks!

Yes it was a bit foolish thinking about it

The head of a local boys secondary lives at the end of the road, which is a bit repressing for the boys who live here!!!

You won't be able to hang your knickers on the washing line.

My knickers? Or just DH's lacy undercrackers?

A few of my colleagues live in the same town as school, and have pupils as neighbours. They find it a very easy source of good babysitters. I haven't heard anyone say anything negative about it.

I think it depends very much on the school. I used to teach in London, in a pretty deprived school, and had a council flat (part of the now defunked scheme) in the area. I lived on the same landing as a student, and that was very difficult, but more because of HER behaviour than having to watch mine. After more than one night interrupted by her coming home really late and finding her mother had locked her out (cue "MUM! MUM! OPEN THE DOOR YOU FUCKING BITCH!" and lots of kicking the door) I had to take it further and alert the appropriate people at school and therefore social services. However, where I live now, I would be perfectly happy to live near the students, in fact one of my sixth form girls babysat for me last night.

If your DH thinks it'll be OK, then go for it - it sometimes does the students good to realise the teachers don't sleep in the stock cupboard. And if the impromptu parental consultation over the hedge thing pops up, a simple "I'd love to chat - could you call school on MOnday morning and make an appointment so that we can do it properly?" will suffice, I expect.

that someone who claims to be a teacher can't even spell 'defunct'

I live in a small semi attached to a family with 2 dc that I teach. We really are on top of each other and there is little privacy. It's OK though. They bought the house a few years ago; we've been here forever, which somehow makes it easier. The only thing I don't like is when the children have friends from school over...they are always very good but I try to keep a low profile / stay out of the garden. DP's have never ever brought up topic of school / tried to get an informal consultation, which is why the whole thing works.

that's uncalled for and rude MrsGuy!

Teachers shouldn't have to avidly check their spelling on here, any more than anyone else.

And no, I'm not a teacher!!

Oh pee off MrsGuy - I was in the middle of sorting out my whiney pre-school twins.

And anyway, I teach Drama so I don't need to know how to spell.

A very senior teacher from DS's school lives opposite us. I find it quite useful to remind DS of that fact when the bickering between him and DD during a car ride starts turning into full-scale warfare after we park . I'm not sure how the teacher feels about it, but I certainly don't try to buttonhole him about school matters on the pavement.

"The head of a local boys secondary lives at the end of the road, which is a bit repressing for the boys who live here!!!"

I would be happy for the Head to live locally. Our crappy Head lived a few miles away so his DC went to the far superior school on the other side of town. Convenient, huh?

The head of DD2's sixth form lives round the corner from us. It was useful when DD1 went through a phase of being purposefully late and he knew she had no excuse as we are within walking distance of the school. I do have an issue that I want to discuss with him at the moment but I am sensible enough not to try and talk to him when I see him jogging past our house

Thanks everyone!

I shall remind DH to check his spelling rigorously in future!

And not jog the other way when he goes out jogging (as if!).

We made an offer on the house before we knew the pupil was there so bit late to worry I know.

I live across the road from a pupil but it has never been a problem