wwyd-bullying and just plain nasty

[ageing5yearseachyear]

dd2 moved to private school to help with dyslexia start of YR7. Academically she has improved- in every other way it has been an utter disaster.

long story short- very small school- only a handful of girls in her year- one queen bee decided each day whether the others were allowed to talk to her.

my dd found taking drink/cigarettes into school on the demand of older kids- somehow put down as DDs fault.

She then started self harming

anyway- we are moving her back to her old school for next term and have told her so. It seems like she is now being bullied by older girls as well- i had to go an collect her she was so upset by them.

School couldnt care less-

Should i continue to force her to go for the next 3 weeks? Should i withdraw her? Should i keep her at home?

Anybody got any other thoughts?

Keep her at home!!!!

But the school need dealing with . They should have a policy to adhere to

thats my instinct blonde- could i be criticised by some educational welfare person? to be fair, it is a different county and private to the state school we are moving her back to.

really at the end of my rope- if they did catch up would it be enough to say that we withdrew her and set her work at home for 3 weeks?

do private schools do educational welfare?

the school seem totally away with the fairies. their main policy seems to be to either ignore it and pretend it isnt happening or hold the person who complains of bullying to account for it.

dd told some silly fibs( like 12 year olds do) not long after she started and now her word is not to be trusted on anything.

really tempted just to keep her at home.......

Keep her at home, if ewo asks she is suffering from stress due to bullying which the school have not addressed.

Have you considered complaining to the chair of governors?

Keep her at home and tell the school why you are doing this.

I'd deregister her officially. Write a formal letter to the school saying you want her name to be taken off their register as you're going to home educate until you've decided where to go from there. (This is perfectly legal and you don't need anyone's permission to do this).
Your poor dd

thanks!

a solution has presented itself- the admissions officer from her old school rang me today to check on a few things and suggested she go back there from Monday for the rest of the term. to say that she is happy at never having to go to the private school again is an understatement.

i am going to look into making a formal complaint- it is a GEMS schoo- so presumably there must be some form of complaints structure in place.