Anyone else having a marital split about which school to choose?

[Burroo]

Now we finally have all the results we are lucky enough to have a choice of 3 (hooray).
However, having discounted 1 choice, of the remaining 2, DH wants DS to go to the extremely wonderful (facilities and atmosphere), very good (academically), perfect fit (for our son's temperament and talents) but excruciatingly expensive private school.
I prefer the not great (facilities), outstanding (academically), not so perfect fit but really exciting state school.
DS would really love to go to the private school, but likes the state school too.
I am sure that DS will do great at either school, he's done really well, we are v lucky etc etc, but....
Really anxious about how on earth I can sustain the private school fees (I am self-employed and my earnings are seriously erratic!); really anxious about disappointing DS who worked so hard to get in; really anxious about how to negotiate agreement with DH so that one or other of us is not left with burning resentment / regret!!!

congratulations on having such good options to choose from!
I am divorced & this week have had to choose from sending ds2 to one of 2 independant schools, our 1st choice would be full fee paying & ex-husb will not contribute but I so desperately wanted son to go there as it is an amazing school.
Luckily my son loved both schools so is happy to go to 2nd choice.
I thought about selling the house etc to raise the money but decided that skinting myself for the 1st choice school didnt make sense as had I done this ds would never have been able to afford to go on any school trips nor could we afford any family hoildays/ days out etc & the stress of the financial burden would of made homelife much less pleasant for all.
And if ds3 wants to attend the same school I couldnt of afforded this at all. I would also be pushed to support all 3 sons through uni if they choose to attend.
Yes it was a bitter pill to swallow until I accepted that son really will excell at the '2nd choice' which is a dream school in itself for most people.
Hope my reasoning makes sense & I hope you reach a decision that suits all of you soon. I'm sure he will excell wherever he goes as it sounds like he has a positive attitude.