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Facebook deterring revison ,how can a parent influence their dc to revise more?

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brimfull · 14/04/2009 12:38

dd is in yr 12
I have discussed with her the disadvantage of facebook and how it is too tempting to her.
Showed her recent article in sunday times discussing how it reduces the childs final grade,which she agreed with but thinks deleting facebook is too extreme.

Has anyone else found this a problem?

Is she too old for parental drastic intervention?

How do we reach a happy medium of minimal use?

She has no computer in her room ,we share the laptop.

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compo · 14/04/2009 12:41

is yr 12 GCSE time?
the only thing that works is bribery, if you do really well we'll get you that XXX you've always wanted kind of thing
but to a certain extent I think you have to let them find their own motivators, like moving up to 6th form with their mates for example, or doing resits.
I wouldn't delete her facebook, she'd hate you

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brimfull · 14/04/2009 12:45

yr 12 is first yr of A levels

she knows she needs ABB to get into the university course she wants-you'd think that would motivate her

she says she needs the pressure to revise and as it's not soon enough

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Sherbert37 · 14/04/2009 12:45

Don't think there is a magic answer. I have two going through this and they have had to 'find their levels' re revision - but they are set far too low for my liking. I have had to let them get on with it, or not, as it was causing too many arguments. Sure they will do ok but could do a lot better with more revision.

Lilymaid · 14/04/2009 12:51

DS2 has to abandon his room for serious revision. He is in Y12 and is revising at the moment. Sky Sports is on in the living room where he has set up camp but he is not using the computer or playing X-box games, so is not too distracted. When he does past exam papers he retires to the dining room - no distractions there.

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brimfull · 14/04/2009 12:52

that's what is so annoying,she could easily do really well if she put in the hours.
Trouble is she got all A* and A's in her gcses with hardly any revision.She has realisedA levels are much more difficult but the needed pressure hasn't hit yet.

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brimfull · 14/04/2009 12:53

Impressed with your ds lilymaid,I think dd has done about 2 hrs total this easter hols!

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Lilymaid · 14/04/2009 13:04

Apologies, I made a miscalculation - DS is in Y13 not Y12, so is doing A2s plus a few AS retakes. (His college still uses Lower and Upper Sixth rather than Year). If your DD has decided on what she wants to do and where she wants to go she needs to remember that she may not get there if her AS Levels aren't great and her A2 predictions aren't what she had hoped for. That's the only real stick that will get her to revise.

CMOTdibbler · 14/04/2009 13:09

You can set the parental control settings on some wireless routers to restrict Facebook (or any other website) to certain times. My colleague has hers set so that her son can only get on for 30 minutes a day - works great as he still gets to use it, but is regulated without nagging

senua · 14/04/2009 13:14

Let her learn the hard way i.e. crash & burn? There are always re-takes (but see below!).

Has it occurred to her that she will have to show these results on her UCAS application form?

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brimfull · 14/04/2009 14:36

the parental control thing sounds ideal how do I do that?
I have a mac with a netgear wireless router.

yes she realises her As results will be important for her predicted grades ,just need it to sink in.Social life gets in the way.
I have tried getting her to imagine results day and how she will feel if she hasn't tried her hardest and gets crap results.

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CMOTdibbler · 14/04/2009 14:45

Login to the router and there should be controls there. Otherwise you can buy software for the laptop to let you setup timings

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brimfull · 14/04/2009 20:06

arf- will have to get dd to help me with that one

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Milliways · 14/04/2009 20:27

I would go with the "AS levels are easier than A2" so she needs to make the most of it and get the highest AS level marks possible - giving her more of a cusion for next year and making her UCAS form look better as well as her predicted final results.

Has her school had a revision evening for parents yet? We were invited to a talk on how much they should be doing and what additional resources were available at school etc.

DD (Yr 13) has moved into the library this holiday to get her coursework completed.

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brimfull · 14/04/2009 20:51

good point about the as being easier will try that one

no school hasn't had revision evening ..yet

her A levels don't have loads of coursework,don't know whether that's a good thing or not?

she's doing maths.physics,french and music

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BecauseImWorthIt · 14/04/2009 20:54

I have no idea. But if you find the answer, will you let me know?

DS1 is the same. He's nowhere near knowing what he wants to do at university though, never mind what grades he will need - and I think this is part of the problem. He just doesn't get how important it all is.

Mind you, neither did I when I was his age.

Hard though it is, I think it's something that they have to 'get' for themselves.

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brimfull · 14/04/2009 21:02

yes agree
there is no point nagging really
it's got to come from them

she should be spurred on by a friend in the yr above who had rubbish predicted grades as she did bugger all in yr 12 and has been rejected by 4/5 universities

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Lilymaid · 14/04/2009 21:20

YOur DD should be doing loads of practice papers - it is impossible (according to DH and DSs)to revise Maths and Physics except by doing timed papers. She can't do these whilst she is on Facebook, just as I can't get on with work whilst Mumsnetting!

webwiz · 15/04/2009 10:31

It can be really frustrating that some kids just get how important all the exam system and others don't. My DD2 is in year 11 and so has been revising this holiday - she knows she is obsessed with facebook, myspace, msn, twitter, following band websites and even playing solitaire on the computer so she does her revision in her bedroom or the kitchen away from temptation.

Her older sister who is in year 13 apparently isn't bothered whether she goes on facebook or not and is supposed to be finishing her coursework this holiday so that she can start revising when its done. Every single time I see her supposedly typing up her geography she is on facebook, every time she is supposedly doing some research for her french oral she is on facebook, every time she is supposedly working on her french written coursework she is on facebook. I think she must have done about an hours work so far in total this holiday and I am seriously considering throwing her laptop through the window.

I think a complete ban is going to have to happen soon because she is just being ridiculous with it at the moment.

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brimfull · 15/04/2009 15:06

dd has agreed to restricting her facebook/msn to 45minutes a day
now we just have to figure out how to do it?

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