Hi, I am looking for any opinions or experience with this problem :
My dd1 started secondary school in Sept, where i live there are two equally good schools next to each other (used to be boys and girls) When picking schools i said to DD1, you chose, i would prefer you to go to school B, as i went there, no other reason, liked both at open days, but your choice as you will have to go there.
So for all the best reasons i.e. better cafe, they have sheep and so on she chose school A. Fine with me, as i said both good.
It was a fair split in primary year, with friends going to both schools.
no good friend in her tutor, but seemed happy with it.
She couldnt WAIT to start, v v v v v excited.
Then after a week or so HATES it, hadnt made any friends, old friends not really bothering with her, spent lunch times and breaks wandering around on her own. I spoke to school, told her early days. Tried to encourage her to chat to people, join clubs etc.
School arranged for some twins in her tutor, who were also struggling to meet her at breaks, she was a tiny bit happier. They are now leaving, going back to private school, as havent settled. She is distraught.
All she wants is to move to other school. I have said no, you havent given it long enough.
She went on a trip for two nights to outward bound place, shared room with twins, i had high hopes she would make new friends - nothing, hates it as much.
She doesnt wander on her own at lunch now, goes to library and reads a book.
Anyway you get general idea, i have tried everything, stern, kind and sympathetic, all of it. Dont know what to do. She used to love school. Should also mention, she has v sick sister, v stressful at home, just want her to be happy, same as everyone at school.
She is shy in new situations.
Should i leave her there and tell her to get on with it ?????? Or should i consider moving her to other school ??? What would you do ???? sorry long !!