Best areas in North London and Herts for inclusive secondary schools

[dadmumplus10]

Can anyone shed any light on the best areas for secondary schooling for our son? He is bright, capable but struggles socially.

We are looking at;
Hapenden
St. Alban's
Whetstone
Barnet

North London and Herts.. We are looking for a 'just outside London' feel with easy access/commuting.. It must be an open, inclusive area / school, not cliquey or village-y..

Any ideas greatly appreciated!

Are you looking for state or private? Are you looking to move house?