GCSE help- motivation all gone!

[OldCat79]

My daughter has been hard to motivate for exam revision and I thought we had cracked it at Easter but she seems to have given up, says she knows she won’t get everything done in some subjects so there’s no point even doing practice papers. She’s says she thinks she’ll do fine but has excepted that she won’t get the grades she wanted at the start of the year but she has left it too late. She won’t follow a revision plan ( we have tried!) won’t follow suggestions of regular breaks and change in revision styles and I don’t know what to do next. There is no point getting mad as it won’t help and she is stubborn so that would make her do even less. She doesn’t have social media and she is pretty good at keeping her phone downstairs when working so I don’t think it’s distraction, more an inherent issue that she feels what’s the point.
she says it’s boring and who cared what you get at GCSE anyway and she’ll just start afresh for A levels.
I’ve tired calmly to support her and offer suggestions for changing things up. Nothing seems to get through.
she is capable but diagnosed a year ago with a processing problem but she has dealt well with extra time and done pretty well in mocks too.
has anyone else a similar issue with their teen?
im not sure how to navigate the next 5 weeks- it’s not forever but I know she will be disappointed with herself if she hasn’t tried once this stubbornness wears off.
Ive emphasised so many times that we are not pushing for grades as long as she tried her best. Its so frustrating

Thanks so much for this LemonKoala89
I disappeared off post as family member was quite unwell to add to the mix. I’ve had some really helpful replies but some of the points you made particularly were useful.
I’ve really tried to keep her positive whilst acknowledging concerns. It’s mostly sciences left now but I’m trying to keep her focussed on past papers and pointing out that she knows a lot more than she thinks. Thankfully she doesn’t get panicky or too nervous when it comes to the actual exam. Apparently the first biology paper was hard but lots of others thought the same.
I really hope she has worked out enough strategy to get her 7’s that she wants.🤞

so so natural that motivation dips right when they need it the most. maybe try reminding her of her goals by bringing it back to the basics: what does she want to do after she leaves school? which a-levels does she want to do? she might have to get a certain grade in her subjects if she wants to carry them on at sixth form or college. ultimately it's her responsibility to put the work in, but what you can do is encourage her to embrace the limited time and remind her that sometimes positive focus comes out of restricted revision.

Similar situation here, OP. I don't think DD is doing enough work to get really high grades, but judging by her past revision and her past grades she'll (fingers crossed) get enough to get onto the A levels she wants.

She refuses any help, and maintains that she absolutely knows what she's doing. She's very stubborn and we're having to just sit back, make encouraging noises and let her get on with it.

Exactly the same here. DD will get (hopefully) what she needs, but hasn’t quite ‘locked in’ enough to get what she could. And no help allowed from us either. The 35 degree heat has really not helped!

I'm trying to see the help refusal as a positive, she certainly won't be one of those A level students who has never studied independently.

How well do you/she understand the slow processing diagnosis ? is there anything else behind or as well like ADHD or dyslexia or anything that would make the whole thing much harder for her and overwhelm her ?
she could also be distracted by a wandering mind or she could be having to read the questions several times.
has she been assessed by an EP or just the school ?
I totally agree with the above comment to break it down into some small manageable task... don't try and cover it all but try and change her perspective
all the best

Was the processing issue diagnosed by an Educational Psychologist? That alone could be a lot to do with it, my own dd struggles with this and it makes the overwhelm even worse. We try to prioritise subjects and tasks and do smaller chunks of revision than long sessions.

I sympathise,OP. Nothing I have tried has motivated my teen. Like yours, could do well, but likely to underperform due to a lack of revision. Total lack, in my DC’s case. My child has off the scale slow processing, diagnosed by the SENCo at primary, but doesn’t meet ADHD guidelines for NHS diagnosis, so that was a brick wall for us.

I even hired a private tutor, well known locally for his skill in motivating kids for GCSE revision and he just charged a fortune to repeat the same advice that I had given months earlier (all the usual stuff up thread).

I’ve gone with gentle reminders and zero pressure now. It’s like watching a slow
car crash and it’s making us all so miserable.

Results day in August will be a lesson in itself.

Solidarity.