Should I send ds with spare clothes?

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Ds (aged 12 year 8) has fallen over twice at school this week. Not hurt but got himself very wet and muddy. First time it was a PE day so he could change into PE kit but 2nd time it wasn't so he had to borrow spare trousers from school. He falls over a couple of times a month normally so this is nothing new, just doing it a bit more because the ground is slippy. He normally manages to stay fairly clean though.

Anyway, I was thinking about sending him in with a change of clothes on Monday. I'm not sure whether to give them to school to be kept in the office/first aid room or have them in his already nearly full school bag. I don't want other children seeing them and assuming that he is incontinent and tease him. I could just not send him with any spare clothes but that seems unfair on the school.

I would be investigating why he is falling over so often. I think it's quite unusual at 12

A pair of trousers wouldn't take up that much room. Just put them in a bag in the bottom of his bag and everything on top so they won't fall out.

Ds used to ask bullies if their Mother had dropped them on their heads at lot when asked inane questions which would cover the do you wet yourself question. Just a thought on how to deal with it should anything arise. But then he was a confident child.

This. Has he been assessed for dyspraxia?

Does he have a locker? Dc has a medical tube insitu which means if they get knocked it could cause bleeding and so had a bag of clothes in the locker in an identical bag to PE kit. So noone thinks anything of it because they would just think it was their peers kit if they saw it.
Id also be questioning why a year 8 is falling regularly?

I was reading this wondering if I’d made a mistake with his age but, at 12 he probably shouldn’t fall over that much? I’d consider a GP trip if it continues!

I would also be wondering if he was being bullied and someone is pushing him over

At 12 surely you just ask him? And also he would be responsible for them if he decided to take them. Honestly, the fact that you even asked if the office should keep them is embarrassing in itself!!

You need to investigate why he’s falling over, op, I’m
amazed you’re so blithely accepting if it, tbh.
It’s absolutely not normal for 12 year olds to fall over a couple of time every month.

Yeah thats odd. I have an 11 year old and 13 year old and they never fall over. Would
look into that.

He's always fallen over that much, he didn't walk until he was 2.5. He had physio when he was little but now he just sees orthopaedics every 18 months or so.

No locker unfortunately. I was going to send in trousers and blazer as the sleeves were getting wet/muddy too but if I can just get away with sending him with spare trousers, that will fit in his bag.

Then you need to get him more physio. Either via the NHS or privately. You can't just accept this as his normal.

Regular falling puts him at risk for all sorts of things. Is he having physio? Occupational therapy? Vision test?

This is outside the realm of Normal at the age of 12 and needs investigating further.

Get him uptodate physio assesment. Maybe paed referral. A diagnosis will help.

He’s in secondary school? Not sure reception will have space for this?

Why not get him a locker so he can store extra clothes?