14 year old has moved secondary school

[ForPearlShark]

Hi all.

just want some advise really.
my just turned 14 year old daughter has been wanting to move schools (in yr 9) for a while now, all of her friends from primary school are in her old secondary, however she never really had a tight group of friends, only really 1 here and there she was close to. Anyway we decided to make the leap and move her to the secondary school opposite our house so she was closer to home, long story short, she hates it, we’ve had tears (plus she came on her period today which I don’t think has helped) only been there a week today, yesterday she came home smiley, Friday she was smiley but apart from that seems miserable.
shes still talking to 1 of the girls in her old secondary school which I don’t think is helping.

I could just move her back but i don’t think it’s the best for her?

honestly i have no idea what to do, but i hate seeing her down.
iv told her to wait till after christmas but she’s adamant she wants to move 🤦‍♀️
any advice or help would be greatful appreciated

What were her reasons for wanting to move school originally and what is better about this school than the last one? There must have been things she didn't like about the school for her to want to move and what are the things she doesn't now like about the new school?

I agree that it can be hard to transition to something new and if it was my dd I would also advise her to stick it out until the end of term before making a decision. Ultimately if she then wishes to go back to the original school (and assuming they have space to take her back) I would be clear that if she moves back there will be no more talk of moving school again and needs to get resettled etc before looking to starting GCSE years (I assume both schools will be wanting them to choose GCSE options in the spring term and each may have different offerings).

What is it about the new school that is making her unhappy?
Is it something that is likely to change - eg she doesn’t like being the new person/not knowing her way around etc
Or is it something more permanent - eg the kids are mean, the behaviour is dreadful etc
If it’s the first one then she needs to bide her time.
If it’s the latter then a rethink may be necessary.