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Gray Coat Hospital School - Westminster

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Moss2000 · 25/09/2025 19:19

I visited Grey Coat Hospital School on 24 September, 2025, with high expectations, as my family has attended church for over five years and met all admissions criteria. However, the open day was a deeply disappointing experience that did not align with the positive impression conveyed by the headteacher and deputy headteacher.From the outset, the visit felt chaotic. Despite pre-booking tickets, they were not checked upon arrival, setting a disorganised tone. The two student guides assigned to us were unprepared, unable to answer basic questions, and appeared confused, which was far below the standard of conduct I expected. When I approached a member of the administration team for clarification, she offered an apology but no answers before excusing herself, leaving my concerns unaddressed.My daughter, who accompanied me, felt completely disengaged and unwelcome, which was particularly disheartening. After the visit, I spoke with members of the local community and Youth Club, who strongly advised against considering the school, further reinforcing my concerns about its environment.The lack of discipline, poor organisation, and unprofessional conduct during the visit have led me to conclude that Grey Coat Hospital School is not a suitable environment for my daughter. I have removed it from my list of preferred schools and would caution others to approach with similar caution.

OP posts:
FeatheryFlorence · 25/09/2025 23:33

Local to me, but my kids didn’t go there. My friend’s daughter did, and did brilliantly. It depends what suits your child.

5daysleft · 26/09/2025 00:33

I actually went to the same open day and was incredibly impressed. The headteacher‘s and deputy head‘s speeches were engaging and inspiring. They talked with clarity and passion about their purpose of raising strong young women who are prepared for the future, their pastoral care, their incredible sense of community, the opportunities they provide for all children such as a large number of clubs and trips, the efforts they go to to ensure all the children have those opportunities and of course their rigorous curriculum. I came away feeling uplifted and happy that the school exists. They also spoke about their exam results which are really impressive.

The senior leadership team clearly have vast experience and are passionate about providing the best possible education for the children in their care.

I thought the main building was beautiful and steeped in history and the newer buildings and other facilities were fine. I also noticed that they didn’t check tickets when they said they would but that would have taken ages and I didn’t feel that it made the slightest difference. My guide was also on the quiet side but she was very polite and showed us round as best she could. I thought it was actually quite a good thing that the quieter and perhaps less confident children are also given the opportunity to practice their social skills by showing people round.

Horses for courses I guess! Hopefully you’ll find a school that suits you better OP.

Alwaystheplusone · 27/09/2025 19:16

Lol, are you posting this in the hope that it puts other people off of sending their daughters there? It’s in the top 10 non-selective state schools in the country and its results speak for themselves.

DandelionDahlia · 28/09/2025 17:38

One thing you might like to take into account is that every student in the year is asked to run a tour for parents on one of the various open days.

Most schools - understandably - cherry-pick a few students for this job.

Araminta1003 · 28/09/2025 20:37

Well they have incredible GCSE results for a comprehensive, lots and lots of high achievers and an ambitious curriculum. Many people really like this school. Good luck with finding a better state school than this one in London.

Moss2000 · 28/09/2025 22:17

Alwaystheplusone · 27/09/2025 19:16

Lol, are you posting this in the hope that it puts other people off of sending their daughters there? It’s in the top 10 non-selective state schools in the country and its results speak for themselves.

Thank you for your comment! I appreciate your perspective and the strong academic reputation of Grey Coat Hospital School. However, my concerns arise from the lack of discipline and organisation I observed during my visit. I heard that the school maintained high behavioural standards, so the chaotic environment and unprepared student guides were both surprising and disappointing. While it's encouraging to hear about the school's strong GCSE results, I believe that a school should also foster a respectful and disciplined atmosphere. The sight of students nearby engaging in inappropriate behaviour only added to my concerns.

I respect your positive experiences with the school and value your input, but this was my honest impression from my visit. Thank you for your understanding!

OP posts:
Araminta1003 · 29/09/2025 11:10

People are looking for different things in schools.
Where a school has a good cohort of innately driven girls, they can be a little more relaxed and then the girls still perform highly, it is a win win. A lot of highly performing girls can get very anxious with too much petty discipline and rules. It can actually harm their mental health quite badly. Whatever the school is doing, it seems to work for their cohort.
The only time you have to be suspicious if there was a relatively recent leadership change which results in a change of culture and then the results deteriorate after that.

FeatheryFlorence · 29/09/2025 14:53

@Moss2000you mention discipline. I’m often on the bus with these girls and they are hands down the best behaved of any in the area, sitting quietly chatting with friends, offering their seat to others (which the Westminster boys never do). If they can behave like this on a bus, they must behave similarly in school.

Uninem · 03/10/2025 23:22

I’ve attended the open day on the 1st of October and it went brilliantly. I agree with comments above that different people look for different things, the fact that there was not time wasted in checking every ticket for me was a plus, as it would have been seeing girls of all abilities showing around. I’ve seen very happy girls there and my daughter was very impressed, so the open day for us sealed our preference and confirmed all we have heard about, if not more as we saw girls with the Opera badge and when I asked what was it about they explained that some of them get to audition for the Royal Opera and also get selected to perform there! What an amazing opportunity offered to very young girls, definitely not something you find in every school!

tigerbear · 04/10/2025 07:51

My DD goes to this school, and has thrived there. Incredible results, flourishing in all subjects.
Despite your observations at the open day, there are very high levels of discipline at the school, it is strict and standards are high.

An open day is a very small snapshot of a school, not always a true picture. This works both ways. GCH wasn’t actually my first choice, and I didn’t actually get to do any tours or open day (it was during the pandemic, and they were stricter than other schools about tours), so I didn’t feel a strong link to it before DD went, and perhaps had a negative impression due to their inflexible policy on visits at that time).

There was another school I visited and LOVED the feel of it on open day, but my friend’s daughter went there, and hasn’t been impressed by the other school for a number of reasons.
Whilst I’ve been beyond impressed by the education my DD has had so far at GCH, so my first impressions have changed.

Melonjuice · 10/10/2025 15:21

I want to apply to this school for my daughter, however she’s not that academically inclined, ie I really have to push her to do her homework or read or anything of the similar without her making a fuss - she will do it eventually but prefers to do it on her own time often right before it needs to be handed in. I know she’s only 10 but I was a bit worried about sending her to her school which has such amazing results as I suspect they really do push them pupils to reach therefore potential however I don’t want to place her under any undue pressure especially around math- she is average to above average in English and most of the subjects except for maths where she is on the SEN register to help her with it I was told she has a working memory problem. I’m worried that if I applied to this school, because we do meet all the criteria that she would be under a lot of pressure is this school good if someone can please advise for a child like my daughter - we did go to visit the school and we did like it although there was something that I couldn’t quite place my finger on that I wasn’t sure about - please can someone advise ??
we were also looking at Saint Thomas Moore in Sloane sq but it’s exam results are quite mixed

bookworm14 · 10/10/2025 19:31

I went to the same open evening and don’t share your view at all! I was hugely impressed. It was somewhat chaotic moving around the school, but that’s always going to be the case when you have a large group of people manoeuvring around a small space. Our year 10 guide was polite, friendly and able to answer all our questions.

Nkmama15 · 10/10/2025 22:55

It was madness. I really liked the head teacher, but my tour was dreadful. I didn’t really see anything and out guide was rushing.

for those with children there , how do you find the facilities ? From the snap shot I saw, everything was a little tired?

nayber · 15/10/2025 20:58

Alwaystheplusone · 27/09/2025 19:16

Lol, are you posting this in the hope that it puts other people off of sending their daughters there? It’s in the top 10 non-selective state schools in the country and its results speak for themselves.

I saw the OP's post word for word on another thread and thought the same thing! I hope I'm wrong.

FitnessIsTheOnlyWealth · 23/10/2025 18:11

My DD sat the language aptitude test 10 days ago. Does anyone know when the results are expected? The school hasn’t committed to any specific date but I’m assuming we will know before they break up for half-term.

Or has anyone had results yet for this autumn?

Tesslina · 17/06/2026 09:21

This is completely untrue. It makes me wonder whether some of these positive reviews are genuine, because they bear no resemblance to our experience.

My daughter has been devastated by her time at this school. She has been there for less than two academic years and came from a background of independent education, as have all members of our family. She joined as a confident, happy, well-adjusted, and academically capable young person. Today, she is a shadow of her former self.

The school has received multiple complaints regarding the behaviour of its students on London Transport, including incidents reported as recently as a few weeks ago. In our experience, many students display hostile and intimidating behaviour.

I believe this stems, at least in part, from the culture within the school. Many students appear to be treated with a lack of respect and understanding by staff. There is one teacher in particular whose conduct, in my opinion, is deeply damaging to children’s wellbeing and self-esteem.

My daughter’s health condition, which had been stable before attending this school, was significantly exacerbated after she enrolled. The chaotic and hostile environment, both among students and, at times, from members of staff, created an atmosphere that I found deeply concerning. In my opinion, the culture lacks the respect, compassion, and civility that children need in order to thrive.

What disturbed me most was the apparent abuse of authority and the way some students were spoken to. The frequent berating of pupils, the assumption of guilt before facts were established, and the confrontational approach taken by certain staff members were alarming to witness.

In our experience, there was little to no meaningful support for students with health conditions. Rather than recognising and accommodating the impact that stress can have on a child’s wellbeing, the school’s approach appeared to worsen matters. My daughter’s condition deteriorated during her time there, and the lack of understanding and support only compounded the situation.

As a parent, it is heartbreaking to watch a child who was once healthy, confident, and thriving become increasingly distressed. While academic results may attract families to the school, no examination outcome is worth the cost of a child’s physical health, emotional wellbeing, and self-confidence

The decline in her confidence, wellbeing, and overall happiness has been heartbreaking to witness. Watching a child who once thrived lose her self-esteem, enthusiasm, and sense of security has been one of the most distressing experiences I have faced as a parent. No school’s academic results can compensate for the damage caused when a child’s emotional and physical wellbeing deteriorates in this way.

There is a significant amount of inappropriate behaviour within this school, including issues relating to alcohol, drugs, and inappropriate conduct between students. Concerns about these matters have been raised repeatedly, yet in my experience they have been ignored or inadequately addressed.

One aspect that initially attracted me to the school was its limited use of computers and technology. However, pupils are told that “computers are the devil”. At first, I welcomed the school’s traditional approach and assumed there was a well-considered educational reason behind it. Over time, however, I began to question whether the lack of technology was more about convenience or budgeting than principle. I understand that funding was allocated for this area, yet I have been unable to determine where that budget has been spent.

Parents are heavily encouraged to make regular donations, and there is a noticeable degree of pressure surrounding this. Even pupils discuss contribution amounts amongst themselves, which I find inappropriate.

The school appears far more concerned with policing uniform, makeup, and other minor issues than addressing genuine behavioural problems. Serious concerns are often overlooked while trivial matters receive disproportionate attention.

My daughter is a bright, mature, thoughtful and well-adjusted young person who came from a background of independent education. We chose this school because of its academic results and strong reputation. Unfortunately, the reality has been very different from what was presented.

The culture, in my opinion, is damaging. Shouting at pupils, assuming guilt before establishing the facts, and embellishing incidents to reinforce authority are not effective educational methods. There also appear to be inexperienced staff members occupying positions of significant responsibility, which only compounds these issues.

The impact on my daughter has been devastating. She joined the school as a confident, happy and capable young person. Since attending, she has become a fraction of her former self. Watching her confidence and wellbeing deteriorate has been heartbreaking.

If I could make this decision again, I would choose differently. Based on our experience, I would strongly encourage parents to consider all available options carefully, including home education or a high-quality independent school if circumstances allow. I genuinely believed I was making the best choice for my child. Sadly, I was wrong.
I appreciate that opinions on schools are subjective and that what constitutes a “good school” will depend on a family’s values, expectations, and standards. However, based on our experience, I still find it difficult to believe that my daughter attends this school.

The reality we have encountered bears little resemblance to the reputation that attracted us in the first place. Had I witnessed the culture, standards, and day-to-day environment before enrolling my daughter, I would have made a very different decision. While other families may be satisfied, the experience has fallen far short of what we consider an acceptable standard of education, pastoral care, and student wellbeing.

My daughter deserved better, and that is why I cannot recommend this school. Given the close proximity to GCSE's we have no choice but try to soldier through. I am still in shock that my child attends this school.

This review reflects our genuine experience, and I feel it is important that prospective parents hear both sides before making a decision.

familyicons · 17/06/2026 09:23

This is a really weird thread. I suggest that you email the school rather than posting it on here.

Tesslina · 17/06/2026 09:24

This is completely untrue. It makes me wonder whether some of these positive reviews are genuine, because they bear no resemblance to our experience.

My daughter has been devastated by her time at this school. She has been there for less than two academic years and came from a background of independent education, as have all members of our family. She joined as a confident, happy, well-adjusted, and academically capable young person. Today, she is a shadow of her former self.

The school has received multiple complaints regarding the behaviour of its students on London Transport, including incidents reported as recently as a few weeks ago. In our experience, many students display hostile and intimidating behaviour.

I believe this stems, at least in part, from the culture within the school. Many students appear to be treated with a lack of respect and understanding by staff. There is one teacher in particular whose conduct, in my opinion, is deeply damaging to children’s wellbeing and self-esteem.

My daughter’s health condition, which had been stable before attending this school, was significantly exacerbated after she enrolled. The chaotic and hostile environment, both among students and, at times, from members of staff, created an atmosphere that I found deeply concerning. In my opinion, the culture lacks the respect, compassion, and civility that children need in order to thrive.

What disturbed me most was the apparent abuse of authority and the way some students were spoken to. The frequent berating of pupils, the assumption of guilt before facts were established, and the confrontational approach taken by certain staff members were alarming to witness.

In our experience, there was little to no meaningful support for students with health conditions. Rather than recognising and accommodating the impact that stress can have on a child’s wellbeing, the school’s approach appeared to worsen matters. My daughter’s condition deteriorated during her time there, and the lack of understanding and support only compounded the situation.

As a parent, it is heartbreaking to watch a child who was once healthy, confident, and thriving become increasingly distressed. While academic results may attract families to the school, no examination outcome is worth the cost of a child’s physical health, emotional wellbeing, and self-confidence

The decline in her confidence, wellbeing, and overall happiness has been heartbreaking to witness. Watching a child who once thrived lose her self-esteem, enthusiasm, and sense of security has been one of the most distressing experiences I have faced as a parent. No school’s academic results can compensate for the damage caused when a child’s emotional and physical wellbeing deteriorates in this way.

There is a significant amount of inappropriate behaviour within this school, including issues relating to alcohol, drugs, and inappropriate conduct between students. Concerns about these matters have been raised repeatedly, yet in my experience they have been ignored or inadequately addressed.

One aspect that initially attracted me to the school was its limited use of computers and technology. However, pupils are told that “computers are the devil”. At first, I welcomed the school’s traditional approach and assumed there was a well-considered educational reason behind it. Over time, however, I began to question whether the lack of technology was more about convenience or budgeting than principle. I understand that funding was allocated for this area, yet I have been unable to determine where that budget has been spent.

Parents are heavily encouraged to make regular donations, and there is a noticeable degree of pressure surrounding this. Even pupils discuss contribution amounts amongst themselves, which I find inappropriate.

The school appears far more concerned with policing uniform, makeup, and other minor issues than addressing genuine behavioural problems. Serious concerns are often overlooked while trivial matters receive disproportionate attention.

My daughter is a bright, mature, thoughtful and well-adjusted young person who came from a background of independent education. We chose this school because of its academic results and strong reputation. Unfortunately, the reality has been very different from what was presented.

The culture, in my opinion, is damaging. Shouting at pupils, assuming guilt before establishing the facts, and embellishing incidents to reinforce authority are not effective educational methods. There also appear to be inexperienced staff members occupying positions of significant responsibility, which only compounds these issues.

The impact on my daughter has been devastating. She joined the school as a confident, happy and capable young person. Since attending, she has become a fraction of her former self. Watching her confidence and wellbeing deteriorate has been heartbreaking.

If I could make this decision again, I would choose differently. Based on our experience, I would strongly encourage parents to consider all available options carefully, including home education or a high-quality independent school if circumstances allow. I genuinely believed I was making the best choice for my child. Sadly, I was wrong.
I appreciate that opinions on schools are subjective and that what constitutes a “good school” will depend on a family’s values, expectations, and standards. However, based on our experience, I still find it difficult to believe that my daughter attends this school.

The reality we have encountered bears little resemblance to the reputation that attracted us in the first place. Had I witnessed the culture, standards, and day-to-day environment before enrolling my daughter, I would have made a very different decision. While other families may be satisfied, the experience has fallen far short of what we consider an acceptable standard of education, pastoral care, and student wellbeing.

My daughter deserved better, and that is why I cannot recommend this school. Given the close proximity to GCSE's we have no choice but try to soldier through. I am still in shock that my child attends this school.

This review reflects our genuine experience, and I feel it is important that prospective parents hear both sides before making a decision.

Do you work for the school Moss ?

familyicons · 17/06/2026 09:25

@Tesslina

why are you posting in bold?

nayber · 18/06/2026 01:08

Its not unusual for people with a long experience in the independent sector to feel disgruntled with the state sector....

I hope things improve for your child. Perhaps, as you suggest, home schooling is a good option for you all now? Or move school. As you say, grades are not reason enough for your child to be unhappy to the extent it is a clinical pathology.

Nstate · 18/06/2026 22:37

I don’t think she’s disgruntled with the state sector itself. She’s disgruntled at how the school has treated her daughter. It sounds like there are some serious issues and bullying going on at the school by staff and pupils. @Tesslina can you give us some more examples eh what happened on the transport etc?

Thedogswhiskers · 18/06/2026 23:20

@Tesslina if your daughter is still in year 8 it’s not too late to move for GCSEs if you aren’t happy.

I also have a dd there who came from an independent and she is flourishing. Has a good group of friends, gets her head down and works hard, and is seeing the results.

nayber · 19/06/2026 11:40

I think the state / private issue is pertinent here, no less because @Tesslina has mentioned it several times.

I think many children who make the change struggle, in both directions but very often from private to state. It requires a new set of social skills and academic drive that is not always essential in the independent sector.

Tesslina · 21/06/2026 11:53

Respectfully, that assumption is incorrect.
Nothing to do with academic ability my daughter is a high-achieving student from highly competitive academic independent school . While Maths is not her strongest subject, she performs very well overall and is also an advanced music student who attends a highly competitive conservatoire on a scholarship.
Our concerns have never been about academic standards or my daughter’s ability to cope with them. They relate to behaviour, safeguarding, student wellbeing, and the school’s handling of serious issues. My daughter has experienced sexual harassment, been shown a knife by another student, and has had her concentration and mental wellbeing affected by ongoing disruption and inappropriate behaviour within the school.
It is therefore disappointing when people dismiss legitimate concerns by suggesting that a child or family simply cannot cope academically. Academic ability and concerns about a school’s culture, behaviour, and safeguarding are entirely separate issues. I could go on, on , on about what occurs there. On top of disorganisation and anarchy they treat students better jf you donate heavily. This is fact.

It’s interesting that some people immediately assume a child can't academically when moved from independent to mainstream ! I think it's just something annoyed parents say !!!

Parents are entitled to raise concerns when they believe serious matters are affecting their child’s wellbeing, regardless of how academically successful that child may be.

Araminta1003 · 21/06/2026 12:11

@Tesslina - unless she is in year 10 I would move her. If you cannot move her, then Harris Westminster or any of the outer London grammar schools for Sixth Form. If you aren’t happy, no point flogging a dead horse.
I heard even Newstead Wood in Orpington had spaces previously in later years. It is on a direct train line Victoria to Orpington. They may have filled the places now. There are issues in most schools now but at least most of the grammars the peer group is sound.

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