Not sure if this is the right board so I’m sorry but it does directly reference school and education.
My Dd is 12. She had her first day back yesterday and a meltdown last night.
For a bit of background she was on a reduced timetable in June and July and was sort of managing on that.
The days she was in she wouldn’t sleep, she won’t eat at school, and was always a ball of nerves (there was also a self harming incident) it was heartbreaking but I thought she found it doable. She had high hopes to ‘enjoy school’ come September, she desperately wants to be that girl! One day back has broken her. She finds it difficult to articulate her thoughts generally but I cajoled her into write her issues down and she wrote notes in the night that clearly express her difficulties with managing the noise, the chaos of the place, her sensory difficulties.
NHS won’t even see her for an assessment of autism or adhd that school forwarded even though it runs rampant through our family, I’m appealing that through her GP. She’s missed so much school already year 6 and 7 but the way I see it, learning is not an option for her in an environment she finds ‘scary’ and overwhelming. At school she is considered quiet and “good” - at home she breaks down from the effort of masking.
I know this morning she’ll give it her best and we’ll sit in the car outside school for ages while she wrings her hands and sobs, and then I’ll have to take her to work with me.
My heart bleeds for her. I have even been considering homeschooling but she is at her dad’s every other week and his work doesn’t allow him the capability or flexibility to offer that support.
sorry if this reads like a venting session, I’m really at my wits end and feel like piggy in the middle between what the school demands and her needs! Any advice that comes from experience is very much appreciated.