My son has just been given a ehcp, I did this myself as a parental request, it was accepted and he has been issued one. I now want to move his school as I want him in an Sen unit (he is currently in mainstream) he also wanted to move when I started the process until now… he suddenly doesn’t want to move anymore.
The reasons he doesn’t want to move is because he is currently in something called “calm club” at school which is a room with only a few children in more adults and the same consistent adults and he stays there all day playing on a computer or they give him work like “what’s 1 ice cream add 1 ice cream” I’m really not joking on that on either, he is 13! He initially wanted to move when he was in lessons as he hated it and was being bullied badly (he moved class twice and both times was bullied horribly even physically attacked) this is why they moved him into calm club as he was also struggling with the amount of children in class, having to move between classes for each lesson and having a different teacher, he struggled with transition and the children bullying him for being different.
Now to him all these problems have been “solved” as he is in calm club but calm club isn’t permanent, he is expected to go back to lessons. He doesn’t understand this he is autistic and he is very black and white so now he doesn’t want to move.
I want an Sen unit but his school doesn’t have one or I’d be happy for him to stay there (well it does but it’s only for girls) so what do I do? Do I override him and say I want the unit instead? I have to put what my preference is on his ehcp. He will have to go back to lessons eventually then I think it will all fall apart again as that’s where the problems came from so I fought hard for his ehcp so I could get him somewhere more suitable.