I am currently feeling rather stressed by the whole process (this is my third time). DD has had weekly tutoring since starting year 5 in September, all seemed to be going well, VR and English more straightforward than for her two older brothers, although she finds Maths trickier. Did a mock at the tuition centre beginning of June, 50% overall, (pass mark is likely to be around 71% in our area). I thought on the day she seemed spectacularly unengaged, came out saying she'd run out of time and guessed loads of the answers. Tutor says she's got the ability to pass but varies wildly in motivation and concentration levels and they could see the mock was a bad day. We've run through the mock papers with her. Maths and English were full of silly mistakes, she should have easily got 70-80%. VR was an especially tricky paper with a few question types she wouldn't have seen for ages (I looked over her CGP books that the tutor sets for homework), and other types that she's not come across before.
The tour and open evening for the local girls' grammar were back in February/March so although she was keen then, it's been a while since we saw the school. Since the mock result she's been saying she's not sure if she even likes the school. The other options for schools are fine, but having done tours and taster days she's not especially keen on any school, just says she doesn't want to leave primary.
She's always been a child who changes her mind with the wind, so at the moment I'm keen to press on with 11+ prep, practice papers over the summer then maybe another mock in September before we decide whether or not to press on to the actual exam.
It doesn't help that she has a friend in current year 6 who passed last year, apparently with two weeks of practice papers in the summer holidays and no other prep. So laid back she didn't even know that the scores aren't ranked here, DC qualify or not, then it goes on siblings, catchment etc. Parent of the opinion that 'if you have to have a tutor you will struggle at the school/don't deserve to be there' stuff. DS1 and DS2 had tuition, passed, and not struggling at grammar. I'm finding it rather unnerving though and wondering if the attendant stress (which I'm trying to hide from DD) means it's not right for her.