Thanks @DataColour , @mojobrojo , @achangeofnameisasgoodasarest & @OhCrumbsWhereNow for answering my Music question 😊
DD wants to do A level because it's the only subject she's sure about wanting to do. She has enjoyed the composition and performance, although she's found the appraisal really hard (like most DCs, it seems).
She is not a natural performer or showy in any way, bu she has loved playing in an orchestra. She does like classical and is dabbling in jazz now. Her ASD means social communication difficulties. Being a part of an orchestra is almost her way of relating.
Trouble is, unlike ohcrumbs' DD she's not sure what to do at all after A levels, and is trying to keep options open while still doing music.
It would have been great for her to go to a specialist music school like achangeofname's DD but without a scholarship it was moot. Plus she was in no state to change schools for the last 5 years (nor I!).
We looked into the possibility of joining the local city's junior conservatiore on Saturdays, but she felt a bit intimidated during our visit and hates the idea of having all Saturdays taken over as she's often exhausted. Still a possibility (she sent audition videos and waiting to hear).
She has to move schools to do Music (another complication as change is naturally difficult and we live far from other schools). She has picked a college, has had interviews and has taster days coming up. But having second thoughts because of location (small town with bad transport) and reconsidering the current school + conservatoire option.
It's so hard to know what's best!