Home ed

[StephyVG]

Hi

I need some advice - I am looking to home ed my child but my ex does not agree. Where do I stand on this?

If you're in the UK and your ex has parental responsibility then you are obliged to discuss schooling with him. If you cannot reach agreement then he could take you to court.

If he disagrees enough then he can take it to court, you would need to show that home ed is beneficial for your child etc. These cases can go either way,
I am sure you have your reasons for opting for home ed so I would maybe try and have a reasonable discussion about these reasons with your ex, maybe see if he will agree to a trial period.

This is helpful:
https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=www.educationotherwise.org/wp-content/themes/EducationOtherwise/resources/factsheets/parents_who_dont_agree_factsheet.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwj2vNiumLeNAxXJUUEAHY6BJbUQFnoECB8QAQ&sqi=2&usg=AOvVaw0Hwfn8389ZNZbP1PwmJTiz

The age of the child will be quite important. If the child is older then their views on the matter will be taken into account too. In a situation I know of, the dad wanted to remove his 13 year old daughter from school and home educate. The mother disagreed and girl did not want it either. The Judge ruled in the mother's favour and social services were involved for a while (but that may have been more due to concern the father may try to take the girl overseas.).

Why not “home educate” over the summer holidays. If it’s successful it should be obvious to both parents that they’re thriving, if not then perhaps child should remain in school. Trouble is once you give up the school placement it’s not always easy to return. A solid 6wks would give you a good idea.

I had the same. I home educated my two DDs while we were together, when we separated he wanted them to attend school. They were 8 & 9. It was addressed as a part of his court action regarding access - he wouldn’t agree to a parenting plan, regular access etc. so I ceased all access until it was agreed. As they were older and I had left the UK, I agreed to them trying school. The local school had sixteen pupils and the principal was one of my closest friends. Even with that, neither of them enjoyed school. They carried on until High School and then I deregistered them and returned to Home Education. They’re 16 & 15 now. Access with their father was never successful and ceased altogether seven years ago. He wasn’t involved in their schooling so it was my decision to make … the 16 year old is taking her IGCSEs this summer.

Yes, Education Otherwise has good advice on the subject. It is a very common situation.

By the way, Mumsnet has a dedicated Home Ed forum where you may get more replies. Even that doesn't have a huge amount of traffic, however. Most home education forums are on Facebook these days. This one for single parents is often recommended: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Singleparenthomeed/

Hi can I ask I am thinking of home Ed my daughter she is going in year 11, is your daughter only sitting science as igcse ?

She’s sitting her science GCSE at college.