Just don’t know what to do anymore, can someone please give me some advice on what to do for the best?
I have one child who is home educated but I can’t do it anymore, it’s been almost 3 years it was never meant to be this long. She is autistic and has learning difficulties, she can’t attend a mainstream school but the LA won’t place her in a special school (hence being home educated) we had an annual review recently where I had hoped to get her a place in a special school however the final draft came back still naming mainstream (despite the case officer telling me she recommends a special school 🙄) ive appealed to tribunal but court date is a whole year away.
I can’t do this any longer I explained to them I can no longer home ed her, ive considered sending her to the mainstream named on her ehcp for an hour a day so I can prove she can’t cope in mainstream, however my son attends this school and is in the Sen department there (he is also autistic) and he said if I send her there he won’t go anymore and told me that I can’t send her there as he doesn’t want anyone to know they are related as he is worried he will get bullied because of her (now I must explain he is not being mean her behaviour is very challenging and she behaviours in an inappropriate manner and doesn’t understand social norms, he is also worried he will basically become a carer for her) I’ve only just got him back into school after 4 months of being unable to attend due to bullying and he said he can’t have her at the school not even for an hour.
So I am stuck because it’s the school right next to us and I’m not comfortable sending her to any other mainstream schools further away as I don’t drive and won’t be able to get there if they call me to pick her up which is likely to happen regularly as she can be aggressive has behaviour issues and she’s also been known to escape school so she will be a risk if she’s at a school far away or an area she doesn’t know. This school is 5 minutes walk away so at least if she escapes or they need me to pick her up I can be there in 5 minutes but my son is really upset about me sending her there and says he will get bullied and he wont want to go if she is going to be there.
What do I do? I feel like I have to do this and put her first as bad as that sounds but she can’t miss another year of education but then someone told me I wouldn’t be putting either kid first if I put her there and shouldn’t be sending her if I feel she wouldn’t cope so what else can I do? I’m desperate.
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