I am looking for some advice please - I understand there may be some appeal panel members on here.
So a bit of background. My Daughter has dyslexia but other issues too: she basically is year 6 but working at Y4-5 for everything. Her processing speed is slower. She struggles with understanding maths, spelling is poor, reading comprehension isn't too bad but fluency and speed arent great. She also struggles with emotional processing: she struggles with change, she struggles dealing with emotions and doesn't know how to process them (although not as frequent now she will get a build up and become hysterical and you cannot get her out of these but they only happen at home as its held in at school) . She has always struggled with socialising and friendships. She would always choose to be on her own and watch in. This is only something now that she's achieved since being with the same class since reception and has a friendship group. She will struggle making friends on holiday or speak to a new child at swimming club for example. She just doesnt. She also struggles with busy places, will get worked up if rules are broken and so on.
We have had an assessment by an educational psychologist and speech and language for the emotional processing back in 2022. Since this time we have understood her and managed it ourselves and at school she has been on a myplan and we have had regular catch ups.
We have now been allocated a school where none of her class are going. For context she was moved up swimming groups and took us 4 weeks of trying to get her there but she got so worked up she couldn't go. We tried taking her to watch in on another lesson but didn't help (she's been at this club since after covid so not new, she couldn't process the change, new people, no one she knew other than the teacher etc), we remained calm and encouraged etc but she became ill from getting so worked up.
The school everyone has been allocated was also our first choice. It's not the leading academic school but everything felt right for our daughter. I felt I trusted the head with what he said and the teachers. The school was calm, clear structure, great reputation for SEN (friends have firsthand experience) and ofsted echo the SEN support. Just everything felt right and it was the school she felt comfortable in.
My aim for her secondary education is for her to have a positive experience, be happy and be supported while also being pushed to her own full potential. The school we have been allocated cannot get it right for bright children and children with SEN have no chance (based on word of mouth and ofsted). As A parent I want her to have the best possible chance while also knowing she isn't going to fly out with top grades as this is ok.
The school is local and with her peers going there I feel this may help the transition easier. She may actually go into school. Don't get me wrong I am not wanting it as I want her to be with her friends as many I do not like :-) but I truely believe this will be a game changer as she can move with people she has spent the last 7 years building relationships with (appreciate they may not be in the classes but juat walking in with someone will make the difference). I know we are going to struggle getting her to the school she's been allocated with her not knowing anyone. We have remained quiet with our views and remained positive so she has the best mindset.
Putting in writing for the appeal is so difficult but my reasons are genuine. I am not a pushy parent wanting the best school, my heart and eyes know this is the right one for her for many reasons. I know our reasons need to be why she would be disadvantaged if she didn't attend this school.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated for an appeal please. Thank you