Op, don’t take offence. What people are saying is perfectly right. Unless you just want people to say ‘it will definitely all work out’ which isn’t useful, their points are valid and give you a more realistic timeframe of when you could hear, which can remove the stress of waiting for the phone to ring imminently.
It is good if they say you’re v close. But as people say, people closer can join the waiting list and they can’t take action until certain dates and even then, admin often makes it quite slow. Understandablyvyoure impatient, but knowing these things take time to move should help the wait feel less stressful
No-one is kicking you. You asked a question where experiences can differ and it’s v hard to talk about timescales. Lots of valid and helpful points have been made, even if they aren’t an answer of people on WL receive places very quickly, which you’d like.
Really hoping you get a place. There is often a lot of movement although it can take a good while, so you maintaining hope is worth it. It’s managing a child that can be tricky - you want to keep hope yourself and be prepared to make the switch if an offer comes up, even if late….whilst at the same time, helping them feel positive about what’s in the table now.
Not being negative about what’s been offered to DC can help them, as can simply saying there can be a number of changes but they aren’t likely for lots of weeks. Reassure them that they don’t need to worry and they will be going to a good school. And then don’t talk about it too much.
If a place gets offered late, it can be tricky dealing with a DC who has mentally accepted the first offered school. However, if you do get a WL offer, being clear that it was the first choice for a reason and it’s your responsibility as parent to make the decisions can help.
Hope it all works out. It’s annoying when it’s a long game, but it’s just the nature of it.