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Holiday mess Hampshire

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Tulips45 · 12/02/2025 08:08

Hi all.. long time reader.

I booked a family holiday 2 years ago for Easter 2024 and again for this year. We did it 'in bulk' as dad was diagnosed with a terminal illness and we were in the panicked 'making plans and memories phase' .

Anyway I used the term time & holiday dates available on the local authorities website at the time. I got it right for 2024. For 2025 it was a bit of guesswork. I checked a few times early last year and all was good but I have nt checked since before Sept 2024. Yes I know I should have.

Anyway turns out I'm out by a week. So my year 8 child will be away 1 week of Easter and will then miss 5 days. I told the school immediately. I've apologised, offered to take away a laptop and email in homework and classwork. Initially the school said they would authorize the absence as it was a genuine mistake and parents booking long advanced holidays get caught out a lot. They have since changed their mind and it will now not be authorised.

That's ok, I was nt expecting them too. I made an error not checking to see if term dates had changed closer to the time. However we will be going. Dad won't be around next year and although I'm usually a stickler for rules, this time family holiday wins. I can't change dates anyway and won't get any money back either.

I've asked the school and the local authority what will happen next. I'm willing to pay fines etc if that's what the procedure is. But I've had zero response and it's now been 2 weeks and it's causing me a lot of stress. Can anyone in Hampshire tell me what the next steps are? I'm starting to freak out about court dates and prison... We have never done this before. My child's attendance is 95% since August last year (spent 3 days in hospital in October). It's usually above 97%>

Thank you for any input.

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MiddleAgedDread · 12/02/2025 08:09

Court dates and prison for a child missing 5 days of school?? Seriously, you need to calm down.

Peekingovertheparapet · 12/02/2025 08:09

nothing will happen. You might get a fine - which is (I think) £80 per parent per child. Enjoy your holiday, sounds like you need it. Don’t worry!

Octavia64 · 12/02/2025 08:10

No prison.

Worst case a fine.

Peekingovertheparapet · 12/02/2025 08:10

You are not the target audience for this policy

BananaNirvana · 12/02/2025 08:12

You’ll get a fine that’s it. And please don’t ask them to set work.

Enjoy your holiday, Y8 is not the end of the world to be missing a week. Courts are for repeat offenders.

WhoAmITodayThen · 12/02/2025 08:14

Not in Hampshire, but please stop fretting.

You will take the holiday, which is fair enough.

Your son is Year 8, he'll survive missing school for a week.The authority may fine you. They may not.

The school will have it marked as unauthorised in the registers. They will not be giving it that much more thought. A few eye rolls maybe, but unlikely...and if the eyes roll, twill soon be forgotten (like second/minutes...not even hours). Mostly probably feeling for you as could easily have happened to them.

So the worst that could happen is a fine. Work out how you will pay it if it happens. Put the money aside in case. Then stop fretting.

And enjoy the holiday.

modgepodge · 12/02/2025 08:17

BananaNirvana · 12/02/2025 08:12

You’ll get a fine that’s it. And please don’t ask them to set work.

Enjoy your holiday, Y8 is not the end of the world to be missing a week. Courts are for repeat offenders.

Agree. Setting remote work which can be done with no input is like setting a whole other lesson. Nothing grinds my gears like parents that do this (I had one ask if her daughter could join calls on teams from India!). You’ve chosen to take your child out of school - I’m not judging you at all, but just enjoy the holiday and don’t add an extra job for his teachers.

Tulips45 · 12/02/2025 08:24

modgepodge · 12/02/2025 08:17

Agree. Setting remote work which can be done with no input is like setting a whole other lesson. Nothing grinds my gears like parents that do this (I had one ask if her daughter could join calls on teams from India!). You’ve chosen to take your child out of school - I’m not judging you at all, but just enjoy the holiday and don’t add an extra job for his teachers.

Thank you. He does a lot of maths online via a website so I just thought we could log on and get it done in the usual way!

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Tulips45 · 12/02/2025 08:25

Thanks everyone. I got more in info from you guys in 20 mins then from anyone else in 2 weeks. Appreciate it x

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HellofromJohnCraven · 12/02/2025 08:31

You might get a fine but probably not for 5 days.
Year 8 if he is taking a weeks holiday, don't take work with you for a week. Make those memories instead.

Ionacat · 12/02/2025 18:20

Hampshire are hot on fines, so I would expect and budget for one and then enjoy your holiday.

Takeachance18 · 12/02/2025 23:28

If you booked with Easter in the middle, you will only miss 4 days as bank holiday Monday and schools go back on the Tuesday.

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