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Change schools before gcse

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Carol52 · 02/02/2025 07:19

My dd is in year 9 . We have had a few problems at school with girls bring nasty with her. In year 7 a girl disliked her on a residential trip for no reason. Then a do called friend grabbed her and another girls throat on a sleep over.She stopped bring friends with this girl but this girl then hung around with some other girls who always got into trouble and started to call my daughter names, starting archer and wanting to fight. I have enrolled and spoke to school and it seemed to quieten down the girls was well known for being bullies. My daughter had more friends in year 20 due to clubs and her brothers friends sister.
She has 2 good friend in year 9 and a few boys she talks to.
We had options evening this week and I was so proud because she still is getting mainly 7 marks in most subjects. A teacher asked my daughter is she happy at school my daughter gave a 5 out of 10
Recently my daughter had been upset because her best friend from primary school seems to of finally found friends at the school she had to go to because of her catchment area up to then she had struggled and constantly been in touch . My daughter told me she had said to her friend we don't talk as much now you have a couple of friends to hang around with from school. We need to keep in contact if our friendship is still there it was a really grown up attitude my daughter had.
Her primary friend basically said she did not know what my daughter meant but on talking to my daughter more her friend went from years of always needing her for emotional and friendship to a snap on Snapchat and occasional text..there are other examples as well.
Here is where I need advice.
Last year my daughter after all the above said she would look at other schools.
I work in another really good school for a year and have mentioned about moving there she I s not sure but as she only has 1 really hold friend and then a few boys and all her other friends in the year above will leave next year I think it would be a good move her.
One of the boys she knows has a girlfriend at the school I work at. They have started talking and she has a small group of friends . She is a nice girl
I think moving school would be a good idea to get away from the girls who she feels uncomfortable with and to b sad he bee friends.
There are other things as well but I would like done advice . Aldo her brother leaves sixth form this year as well so he won't be there ,
Any help please

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Carol52 · 02/02/2025 07:20

Carol52 · 02/02/2025 07:19

My dd is in year 9 . We have had a few problems at school with girls bring nasty with her. In year 7 a girl disliked her on a residential trip for no reason. Then a do called friend grabbed her and another girls throat on a sleep over.She stopped bring friends with this girl but this girl then hung around with some other girls who always got into trouble and started to call my daughter names, starting archer and wanting to fight. I have enrolled and spoke to school and it seemed to quieten down the girls was well known for being bullies. My daughter had more friends in year 20 due to clubs and her brothers friends sister.
She has 2 good friend in year 9 and a few boys she talks to.
We had options evening this week and I was so proud because she still is getting mainly 7 marks in most subjects. A teacher asked my daughter is she happy at school my daughter gave a 5 out of 10
Recently my daughter had been upset because her best friend from primary school seems to of finally found friends at the school she had to go to because of her catchment area up to then she had struggled and constantly been in touch . My daughter told me she had said to her friend we don't talk as much now you have a couple of friends to hang around with from school. We need to keep in contact if our friendship is still there it was a really grown up attitude my daughter had.
Her primary friend basically said she did not know what my daughter meant but on talking to my daughter more her friend went from years of always needing her for emotional and friendship to a snap on Snapchat and occasional text..there are other examples as well.
Here is where I need advice.
Last year my daughter after all the above said she would look at other schools.
I work in another really good school for a year and have mentioned about moving there she I s not sure but as she only has 1 really hold friend and then a few boys and all her other friends in the year above will leave next year I think it would be a good move her.
One of the boys she knows has a girlfriend at the school I work at. They have started talking and she has a small group of friends . She is a nice girl
I think moving school would be a good idea to get away from the girls who she feels uncomfortable with and to b sad he bee friends.
There are other things as well but I would like done advice . Aldo her brother leaves sixth form this year as well so he won't be there ,
Any help please

Sorry the first paragraph a guys slapped her not disliked her!

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MarchingFrogs · 02/02/2025 08:41

From the practical point of view, since she would need to move as soon as possible (with regard to GCSE options etc) - is there actually a space available in Year 9 at the school you want to move her to? 'Really good' and 'undersubscribed' are often not found together.

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Carol52 · 02/02/2025 12:19

Hi the school has waiting lists in all years . However I would be able to start her in year 10

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MarchingFrogs · 02/02/2025 15:04

Carol52 · 02/02/2025 12:19

Hi the school has waiting lists in all years . However I would be able to start her in year 10

How, if there are waiting lists for all years? Is a very desirable Studio School or UTC just about to open, to which the school envisages losing enough of its current year 9 to take it down to below PAN for year 10 in September?

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Carol52 · 02/02/2025 15:35

They will because I work there . The reason for my post is for advice. The school is outstanding rated . It is very desirable and it gets good results. This a great school

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MarchingFrogs · 03/02/2025 09:10

Carol52 · 02/02/2025 15:35

They will because I work there . The reason for my post is for advice. The school is outstanding rated . It is very desirable and it gets good results. This a great school

Ah, you didn't say initially that you worked in an indie. In a state school, where a year group is oversubscribed, being 'child of staff', where this is an oversubscription criterion, may mean that the applicant is ranked above all others if a place becomes vacant,but in itself does not create a place where one doesn't exist. Although academies can decide to admit over PAN, most don't, because where the space 'created' is for someone who would not have been at the top of the waiting list, had there actually been a place available, it puts the school in a very poor position, should the parents of a child refused a place lodge an appeal.

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Carol52 · 03/02/2025 10:08

The point of the post is not about place it is should I move my daughter with the details I have written about. Please do not write about wheather a place us there.

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stclair · 03/02/2025 10:14

We moved my dd for start of year 10. Some of the subjects are different exam boards so she had either catching up to do or found she had already been taught it. Other than that it was a good move.

MumonabikeE5 · 03/02/2025 10:19

shes only 5/10 happy, she has only a few friends and has experienced unkindness and abuse

why isn’t she already at your school, clearly the move is a good idea.

Even is she is only 5/10 happy at new school, it won’t be worse

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Carol52 · 03/02/2025 14:51

Thank to the couple of Katie's that gave replied answering my deliema.
I am worried as my daughter Gaby fully on board with moving school

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Greenstamp · 03/02/2025 15:37

Moving her would be a gamble. People will reply saying it worked out for their DC or not, but whatever their experience, for any one DC it's a roll of the dice. You and she need to weigh up whether the likelihood and level of potential pay off add up to enough to be worth rolling those dice. If it goes pear shaped there are more extreme options like online school. I think often a student will only risk a jump in Y10 if there are significant "push" factors. I can't really judge from your post whether that applies here.

Check whether any of the GCSE syllabus starts in Y9. It's not necessarily a deal-breaker if so, but she'd need to be informed, motivated and supported to cover the topics over the summer.

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Carol52 · 03/02/2025 16:35

Thank you.
They do not start any early studies so that's ok.
She is worried about moving which is understandable and she is unsure if she wants to but we have had 12 months of possibly moving and looking at other school before .

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