Bullying

[Lillybank1]

How do you prove your child is being bullied when the only witnesses are the bullies?

I don't think you have to have witnesses to bring it to schools attention.
Have u spoken to the school and they're denying it's happening?

I have spoken to the school and spoken to the parents. The school have spoken to the young person concerned but its continued. We have a log of dates, times, locations and what was said, parents are saying didnt happen, its all fabricated, their darling child is a pro at deflection. Just feels like until the parents beleive us this will never stop. Iv gone back to the school but not feeling hopeful the child knows she has her parents on side.

Does the school have CCTV?

Sadly you can’t. We involved the police, and that put a stop to it.

I’m not sure need to check that out

@newmum1976 did it have to become physical before you were able to do that? Ours is very much isolation and ridicule

I would never ever ever speak to the bullies parents. You put yourself in a difficult situation and often this makes it worse. Always let the school deal with it. If they aren’t then escalate. Can your child video them or record them? This might help?

Yes. Our situation was unusual in that the bullies caused criminal damage to our property. We couldn’t get them for any of the lower level stuff. We moved school in the end and we’ve had a great experience at a new school. Very sorry to hear you are in this situation.

@Westofeasttoday Iknow them, it seemed like the obvious first step.

Totally get it but they are never going to admit their child isn’t behaving well and it can escalate from there. Makes it very awkward and possibly difficult between you going forward rather than the school dealing with it. Let the school be the bearer of ‘bad news’ and let the school dish out the punishment.

It's probably not a good idea to get the victim to do this on school premises. It's highly unlikely that the school doesn't have a policy regarding recording without permission, and that would just put them automatically in the wrong.