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Moving school due to bullying

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CatsCuddles · 17/10/2024 10:45

My son started secondary school last year but he has been bullied since he started. He is autistic though awaiting assessment but the other children seemed to pick up on this and would target him for it as he lacks social skills and was uninterested in speaking to the other children or making any friends, he became a target (the school admitted it was bullying) they moved his class but the bullying still continued (in fact he said it was worse in the new class) they would call him “acoustic boy” (derogatory term for autistic he has not told anyone he is autistic as he does not accept himself that he has Sen they just seemed to pick up on it) and he was hit by one of them, they would chase him and threaten him. That was the final straw and I decided to take him out of the school. The trouble is he is now refusing to go to any other schools apart from one particular school that he did not get a place in (his original 1st choice) and is unwilling to try any other schools I have spoken to him about other schools in the area but he is unwilling to try any. He doesn’t have a ehcp and people have told me to apply for one but we have no professionals involved as he doesn’t attend the school now and he hasn’t seen anyone, he is awaiting assessment (been told 18 months but he’s been on it since December last year) I can’t send him back to the school but I have contacted other schools in the area so he can join the waiting list but will I get into trouble for not sending him to the school he is currently registered at? I have applied to other schools but waiting to hear back but what if there is a huge waiting list? He was on the waiting list for the original school he wanted but didn’t move down the list at all in a year so I worry other schools might also have a long wait? Will I have to deregister him whilst we wait If the waiting list is long?.. I am reluctant to deregister as I know that can make it more difficult to get back into school.

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earlylunch · 17/10/2024 10:49

So currently he is not at any school? you have deregistered him from the bullying school?

earlylunch · 17/10/2024 10:50

but we have no professionals involved as he doesn’t attend the school now and he hasn’t seen anyone, he is awaiting assessment

So he’s not attending school but still registered at the school?

CatsCuddles · 17/10/2024 10:53

Yes I am not deregistering him but he hasn’t attended since I am asking how to apply for another school without deregistering

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earlylunch · 17/10/2024 10:54

how long has he not been attending school?
Surely school remain involved if he’s still registered there and are currently recording him as absent every day?

DemonicCaveMaggot · 17/10/2024 10:56

Can anyone at his old school help with relocating him? They have clearly let him down by not getting a handle on the bullying. He isn't going in because he just doesn't feel like it but because he doesn't feel safe because they aren't protecting him. Is there a complaints procedure you can follow that might raise his case? I think you need some kind of formal notification that he isn't just truant but that they aren't providing him with a safe learning environment and whoever is in charge of education in your area has to do that.

CatsCuddles · 17/10/2024 11:12

earlylunch · 17/10/2024 10:54

how long has he not been attending school?
Surely school remain involved if he’s still registered there and are currently recording him as absent every day?

Well no because they didn’t think he needed an ehcp otherwise they would have applied for one whilst he was there which they didn’t? It was never mentioned. Other people who I’ve spoken to and explained he is only wanting one particular school have told me I should apply for an ehcp so he can get a place there, I’ve tried to explain to him he won’t get a place in the school and personally I feel he should accept that and he should go to another school and have tried to look at other options but he is not willing to consider them. He has become fixated with this school but he will not get a place there but people have insisted I should fight that and get him an ehcp. He hasn’t attended since the start of September.

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CatsCuddles · 17/10/2024 11:14

DemonicCaveMaggot · 17/10/2024 10:56

Can anyone at his old school help with relocating him? They have clearly let him down by not getting a handle on the bullying. He isn't going in because he just doesn't feel like it but because he doesn't feel safe because they aren't protecting him. Is there a complaints procedure you can follow that might raise his case? I think you need some kind of formal notification that he isn't just truant but that they aren't providing him with a safe learning environment and whoever is in charge of education in your area has to do that.

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Thank you yes this is exactly it he is not safe there, he was permitted to leave early at 2.50 so he could avoid the bullies as they would wait for him after school. The school accepted he was being bullied and too scared to attend, I’ve had countless meetings with them but nothing changed.

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earlylunch · 17/10/2024 16:21

so currently he is not being educated and the school aren’t bothering to enquire about his deteriorating absence rate?

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