Ongoing bullying at DD school - is there anything I can do it's not my dd being bullied

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DD is pressuring me to "do something" about boy in her year being badly bullied. She said its got really bad recently after they keep teasing him about "sexually assaulting" my daughter. He didn't, my daughter said he touched her by complete accident. She said they've always been a little bullyish towards this individual however it's turned up a notch where the boy is now frightened and severely distressed as these dreadful bullies keep teasing him about this incident.

Speak to school. He might not have told his parents so they won't be speaking up. It's perfectly ok for you to do so. I did when I discovered something worrying about another child and school told me I'd done the right thing.

Speak to the school.

Sorry I should have said, already spoke to school and nothing seems to have been done. DD says she thinks he didn't say anything or admit to being bullied so as not go "snake" on them

I feel there is a dripfeed here.

Is the target "different"?
Perhaps a SEND child?

Advice will vary dependent on the backstory here

No nothing like that.

Just your average student.

Speak to school again. There isn't really much else you can do.

DD I think needs to also directly speak with the class teacher. It’s really horrible. My stomach churns thinking about all the children out there suffering in schools starve hands of their peers. Adults need to do more.

Speak to school again. Try deputy or head or head of year or even safeguarding as someone different.
Would your dd be willing to be a witness?

I reported an incident outside school once. I didn't have much faith that anything would be done. I spoke to the dm and she said that they'd been in so often and nothing was done. The school did not have a good reputation of dealing with bullies.

I was told by my dc (who didn't witness it and didn't know I'd emailed) that the set of boys involved were in the heads office by 9am and parents were called in. I understand (from one of the parents) that the ringleader's parent tried to say it was made up. They were told they had a credible witness and would be standing by it.
It improved considerably after that.

My son had a similar incident to this, although less severe he was very upset but loathe to talk to teachers about it. His best female friend marched him to pastoral to insist he told her about it and it was sorted. Your DD could do the same, if she feels up to it? I do feel like more action is taken when it comes directly from the children affected.

Thank you so much I wish your DD was in my DS's school looking out for him. He's being incessantly bullied it's been awful.

If she's still worried then contact the school again by email this needs to be in writing. If she's willing to be a witness so much the better but I know that could be hard for her.

Either way at least your actions mean the school will at least monitor it now.

Your DD sounds absolutely lovely you should be really proud of her.

Why on earth would it make a difference if the target was an SEN child? Does it make it better or something - a bullied child is a bullied child a bully is a bullly and schools need to have more power to support one and expel the latter