Daughter refuses to attend

[JHuff]

My daughter refuses to wake up and get out of bed and go to school. Since returning back when summer holidays finished she has managed it 3 times over the 2 weeks. She goes to sleep very late. I don't know how long I can carry on starting and finishing every day with an argument.

adhd isn't a excuse for bad behaviour though. You need to be firm and take it away and punish her accordingly. Shes doing it because you're allowing it.

My son has a LD & autism/adhd and if I allowed him to behave like that he would and we'd get nothing done. Even if you just take her charger so she can't charge it.

To be honest that's not really anything to do with ADHD. A lot of teens will react like this, phones are so incredibly addictive. It does sound like it's early stages of refusal so you do have to make it quite boring for her at home or this will escalate. I knows she's 14 but is that y9 or y10? For a LOT if girls with SEN GCSEs are where it falls apart and it's incredibly overwhelming suddenly having this doom of growing up and exams.
My DD refused to go to school for 9 weeks so I do get it. The only thing that ended up helping is making her a timetable which outlined exactly what's happening during the year, what she is behind on and what she needs to do everyday. This was 10mins chunks a day and it was a tangible way of making her feel less overwhelmed. She also has ADHD if it helps, and normal teen outbursts of anger.
A lot of kids are unsettled beginning of y10 and 11. A lot of schools also start GCSEs in y9 so this is relevant for that too.
Saying things like, all your feelings are understandable and it's ok to feel them but all your behaviours aren't.
I'm not for a second suggesting it's easy- my DD ran away when I took her phone off her and I mean genuinely gone for the night. It was the worst night of my life but you cannot back down. They have to understand there's limits to what they will get away with otherwise they don't feel safe.

Have you got parent link on her phone? You can control the phone from your phone. If she kick off then so be it. Make the consequences clear and follow through. Also, fuck the neighbours. You need to get this under control or you'll end up in court.

Have you considered cutting the phone off entirely and buying her a brick. An old style Nokia? Just until she learns to be more responsible.

if you can't physically take it off her, can you disable it remotely?