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Just said no to place ds was offered....

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swedishmum · 26/03/2008 13:33

... not that we'd have sent him there but if our appeal fails he has no place for next year. Anyone else not knowing where their children will be next year?

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QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 26/03/2008 14:12

Well, I have accepted the local Comp but ds1 is on the waiting list for another Comp and he has a place at an independent school so I can say with some confidence that I have no idea where he will be going!!!!!!!

Although I do appreciate that he will have a place somewhere or other.

PrimulaVeris · 26/03/2008 14:20

Hmm, this was me a year ago. Had to accept offer of local comp or else nowhere to to at all and out of system.

Went on loads of waiting lists and finally got place in July. Some of the children in local villages end up with allocation of one of several sink schools miles away, they do not get decent school place until July or even into September. Nightmare.

Are you banking on successful appeal - can you get on other waiting lists?

cory · 26/03/2008 19:23

We're appealing because they put dd (disabled) into a large school with stairs and no lifts.

Apparently, because our first choice, though suiting dd's needs perfectly, was not on the LEA's list of accessible schools, they thought they could ignore the medical side altogether. Or at least that's what the admissions officer told me. Oh joy!

So we've appealed- and we're going to keep on appealing.

Don't mind the local comp at all- but I'd rather dd didn't break her neck falling downstairs.

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swedishmum · 26/03/2008 21:15

The local comp ds was offered is so so bad - went to look at it as a teacher for a job. No way he'd go there anyway.
Cory, sounds you have fully justifiable reasons - good luck with the appeal.
We're in a village about as far away from the local towns as it's possible to be which is why we end up with the places no-one else wants. Have a nice reply from my MP with his support - he's an ex shadow ed sec and I'm sure realises the system round here sucks.

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pinkystinky · 28/03/2008 17:13

We had a letter from admissions this morning,and im not happy! Said "thankyou fior sending in medical letter,which was forwarded and assessed by the community paedactrician,who does not think that my dd should be given a place at chosen school on medical ground.
Dunno what todo now! She is in such a state,been crying for months ,not eating properly,wetting the bed,cos shes worried( doesnt wanna go there because the kids down the rd go there and have been abusive and shes scared its gonna get worse once she starts)

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swedishmum · 29/03/2008 23:47

Will you appeal pinkystinky? I bought a book - how to win your school appeal - quite short and helpful.

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sdr · 30/03/2008 09:32

Keep perserving. My DD now in Y9 and was in same situation a couple of years ago. What worked for us was speaking to the school admissions person directly and got bumped up to top of waiting list. Got a place 2 days before appeal. It's very stressful but talking with other parents who've been thru it you've got to just keep steadily going. Write letters, make phonecalls. Pinkystinky - can you get someone else to do the assessment? Who could meet your daughter? My DD's primary head teacher told me when I was going thru it all, that the most important thing to remember is the children need to be happy. Then they will succeed even if only an OK school.

pinkystinky · 06/04/2008 19:43

I had letter from from admissions this morning.He said the school we applied to was over subscribed and sorry she couldnt have a place, there were children in higher priority than dd.
Now what do we do? Is it worth appealing? Shes in a right state,is adamant she wont go to the school they have alocated her.Sure the answers still gonna be no.

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swedishmum · 07/04/2008 11:17

You have a right to appeal, so I'd certainly have a go at it. Might get you further up the waiting list at least. From what I understand the more persistent (while being v polite) you are, the more likely you are to get what you want!
My ds's appeal is on May 13th - ages off, but at least we have a date now. It gives me long enough to put a portfolio of his decent writing together.

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pinkystinky · 07/04/2008 21:27

SDR - What assessment is this? I just dont know what more evidence i can get together.Itried talking to dd teacher to see if she noticed any change and she said "its hard to tell as she has little confidence anyway, and doesnt open up", asked if she'd write a letter to help, and she said little i can say.Lot of help!
So i have given a gp letter- what else, i really dont know what im doing!!
DDis in such a state , keeps bursting into tears everytime she speaks about the school they have given her a place at.

bigdonna · 08/04/2008 09:22

my ds has no place for september,he has been bullied and given a place at the worst secondary school in merton where the bullys are going !!!!!looking at new schools if he does not get place at school we like i will teach him at home until they give me a place at school we want {grin}

sarah293 · 08/04/2008 09:28

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chamaeleon · 08/04/2008 09:43

what would happen if you told them you were going to home ed? would they be more likely to change their minds? not in this situation yet but its looming....

pinkystinky · 08/04/2008 12:20

I honestly dont think i would have the patients to teach her at home!( We clash lol....i try and explain something,she just frustrated,bam,lol)
Plus my 20 month old is at home too,so probably not ideal! But she'd miss out on interaction with kids her own age!

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swedishmum · 08/04/2008 13:29

I could HE - have done it before but doesn't really make for a peaceful home life! Also he's great at science and it's not my strongest area...
I'd keep him off and be one of those mums you see on the local news!

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pinkystinky · 08/04/2008 13:48

Do you have to have been a teacher or had teaching experience to He? Do you get any help or guidance from anywhere?
Been thinking about it today, cant have her in this state.

Celia2 · 08/04/2008 13:51

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bigdonna · 09/04/2008 08:45

yep the school begins with b unfortunately its my nearest one .i took him for test at greenshaw he would have passed hes very bright but was ill at time and had panic attack(had sinus op that week).

bigdonna · 09/04/2008 08:53

pinkystinky you do not have to have teaching experience,you will get some help .something will probably come up just put her mind at rest,my ds was so upset and i told him there was no way he was going to allocated school.he had sleeping problems,anxiety attacks,depression,and very low self esteem.he started new primary in january and much happier.i would not choose to teach him as he is very moody and difficult.he had 8mths off school 07/08.

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