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blossumlou129 · 06/01/2024 13:30

Hi,
A bit of background, my DH had a stroke a few years ago which has meant having childrens’s friends round and maintaining friendships has been and continues to be hard.
My DS2 has a choice of 2 middle schools. DS2 is 8, will be 9 when he goes to middle school. DS1 has 1 year left at the one which is closest to us. When it came to making his choice it was easy as he had no friendship group and even now doesn’t really have friends round. In 2 years DS1 will be going to college the other side of town.
DS2 is more sociable and has 1 friend round regularly (this is hard for us as a family due to DH conditions) DS2 has a speech issue which makes it hard to make new friends as at this age he doesn’t talk clearly and new children lose interest.
DS2 best friend is going to a school the other side of town and my impression of the school is that it’s not as caring as the school closest to us but DS2 wants to go there as his friend is going there, although he prefers the school closest to us.
what do I do?
Do I send DS2 to the same school as his friend to help maintain the friendship Even though I don’t get as gentle a vibe from it, or hope to maintain the friendship and send DS2 to my preferred school.
Thankyou !

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shepherdsangeldelight · 07/01/2024 11:54

Will you even get a place at the middle school that's the other side of town?

I'd strongly suggest picking the school you think will be better (particularly as you need SEN support), and leaving friendships out of it. It's quite common for children to change friends at this age anyway, so there is no guarantee they will stay friends even if they stay at the same school.

So in your situation, I'd choose the local school and make every effort to keep the friendship going out of school.

I don't really understand why DH's condition precludes a friendship being maintained? They are at the age where they could play out, or surely friend could come round and they could just sit in DS2's bedroom?

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