Eton housemaster visits

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Looking for experience from anyone who has been through these before. I was told these are almost like an interview for DS and us as parents. Is this true ? Does DS need any more preparation? Do I ? Wondering how formal these visits are.
Thanks

We did these visits last year, it was very casual, HM asking about the boy's interests, past school, favourite subjects, family etc. Really it is a relaxed conversation to understand who he is inside, to see if he would be a good fit for the house. So I would say no need to prepare ahead (this is not made to test him, he already got accepted), except the usual reminders that boys might tend to forget (sit up straight, no monosyllabic answers, be yourself, firm handshake etc). Remember, you are interviewing the HM as much as he is interviewing you, so don't be afraid to ask questions too, as once in a house, I hear it is impossible to change so better make sure he lands in a house where he feels comfortable! Good luck to your DS finding the right house

Well yes, it is an interview - because each HM needs to assess whether your DS would be a good fit with the other boys who might join the house in the same year. (The specific mix of boys is crucial.) But as pp says - it’s also a crucial opportunity for you to assess whether he’s someone you’d trust to help your son to thrive at the school.

Certainly no preparation needed beyond having your questions ready. If your DS has got this far he should be able to hold his own in the conversation.

Looking for some wisdom if anyone has been in this position - sadly my son has not been offered a house place at the end of the group allocation round. Feels disappointing… has anyone been in this position before ?

It may feel disappointing but there’s no real cause for worry. He has a place and will eventually be found a house. And as far as I’ve seen, very few boys regret the house they end up in. (Not saying that never happens, of course.)

And if there was a particular HM you liked - remember that, whatever they say, HMs can move on at any time, which inevitably changes the character of the house.

(the following was true as of 2015)
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My son was admitted just before Christmas. In the spring, We were given the names of four housemasters; and after rather formal emails back-and-forth, we scheduled a visit to the School to visit the housemasters. After meeting them you rate them one to four, in the order of preference.

The housemasters do the same thing they’re to judge whether you (are you going to be annoying parent) and your son (will he get along with everyone else) will fit into the house style.
The housemasters, then gather and hold basically a draft to choose the candidates that they want in their house.
From our experience, one house suited my son perfectly, a second house would work in a pinch, and the third and fourth were absolutely not right for our son.
We are fortunate in that our first choice was the same as the housemaster.
Other kids are not as lucky they get shipped off to the dreaded Pool to wait for a spot somewhere in someone’s house: they did not get drafted.

It does seem like luck needs involvement. We have been through the “pool” process. Not getting allocated in the first round was actually a blessing in disguise. We found a wonderful fit for our DS in the second round… better than any of the houses in the first round were for him. So it worked out in our favour in the end.