Looking for advice or any thoughts you could share with me
Our daughter has attended private primary school and then went on to private secondary school of her choice (girls only). She has really enjoyed Y7 and first half of Y8. From around January Y8 she started having disagreements with her school friends and by March/April she was saying that she doesn't like her school, she doesn't gets on with the other girls and would like to move to another school. We did not inform the school, hoping this is possibly just a phase and that things will improve. At the end of the school year the situation was the same, so I have called a few other private schools in the area asking for an off chance space, but none seem to be offer anything. Summer holidays passed quickly and the situation seems much worse now. My daughter has been crying a lot, saying she does not want to go back to school and she seems generally very unhappy. When at school she hardly speaks with anyone and the breaks she spends on her own. Joining the clubs has not helped either. My husband and his family seems to think this will pass and as much as it is quite upsetting for our daughter, change of school won't solve the problem. At this stage we have involved the school, so they are aware, but I guess there is little they really do. I feel so sorry for my daughter and I am unsure how I can help her. She would like to move to a local state school, where she knows some of the children and she seems to thinks this will solve all her problems. I am very worried that it won't and that she will have hard time adapting to state education. Also, the secondary school she attends currently is rather small and the school of her choice is massive. There seem to be much less pros for change of school (hope for new friendships) than cons (running away from a problem, uncertainty if the change will be positive, difficulty getting back into private education if the change doesn't help, disruption in learning), but I am extremely worried for my daughter and my gut feeling is that situation at her current school won't improve. Would a sessions with a psychologist or counselor help? Have you been in a similar situation? What would your advice be?