Private schools

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Spacemoonpf · 17/07/2023 20:29

Hi all. My daughter is going to secondary school and has been accepted into a private school. Im now thinking of getting my son into a private school as well going into year 10, however he’s really pushing back on this and his reason is he already has friends and the school I’m trying to get him in , they have to go in every Saturday and finish 4:50 on some days (which he not used to). Is it bad having one child in state and the other in private school? My worry is if he ends up resenting me for not getting him into private school

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Ifyouarehappyandyouknowit123 · 17/07/2023 20:30

What year is your daughter in?
Would you be able to easily afford to get them both in?

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 17/07/2023 20:33

If he is happy and performing well at his state school then no I wouldn't move him in y10.

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Spacemoonpf · 17/07/2023 20:34

Ifyouarehappyandyouknowit123 · 17/07/2023 20:30

What year is your daughter in?
Would you be able to easily afford to get them both in?

Hi. My daughter is going into year 7 and yea I would be able to afford to get them both in private school. Just my son is refusing to change schools ):

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Ifyouarehappyandyouknowit123 · 17/07/2023 20:36

Sorry, I read your post again.
I wouldn't change his school if he is happy. Some schools start GCSE topics in year 9, and I am guessing he has chosen his GCSE subjects now so may lead to more disruption.
My sister moved schools at the beginning of year 11 and absolutely hated it.

LIZS · 17/07/2023 20:40

Would they even accept him at this late stage? It may be disruptive his gcse courses now. Tbh it would be better to transfer for sixth form if it suits him better.

lanthanum · 17/07/2023 23:03

You've offered him private, so I don't think he'll resent you for allowing him to choose to stay at state. (If you mean he might resent that he didn't start off in private in year 7, it sounds as if he's happy where he is, and I'm sure there were reasons why you didn't consider it back then - kids do understand that circumstances change.) Keep the offer there if he wants to go private for sixth form.

Foxesandsquirrels · 18/07/2023 09:30

Never move a happy child is the mantra. My DDs best friend moved from their state school to a 'naice' private school with all the grounds and £25k a year fees. She moved in Sept of Y9 and has been miserable ever since. She's just finished Y10 so it's been 2 years but she's doing really really badly. Was previously high achieving. Can't relate to the kids, finds the teachers aren't that great, struggling with the long days and funnily enough, the long holidays as the kids in her school go on loads of holidays and her old friends are still in school. They can't move her back to the state as it's so oversubscribed. The grass isn't always greener and £££ doesn't always mean better. I'd revisit the idea for sixth form and go to open days etc. It's not like he wanted to and you said no.

SophieHope7 · 18/07/2023 09:38

If he's happy, don't move him. My brother went to private school and didn't thrive. My sister and I were in state education and comparatively did much better academically and socially. Fit the school to the child not the other way around. These are very formative years for young people.

Pottedpalm · 18/07/2023 14:29

If you are happy with his progress and he doesn’t want to move there’s not much point. As a pp said, get him to think about a move for sixth form, which can be very beneficial.

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Spacemoonpf · 18/07/2023 19:46

Thank you all for your answers. The other reason we want him to go to a private school is because is behind in his grades and I was thinking in a smaller setting at a private school it will help boost his grades

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Testina · 18/07/2023 19:59

Behind in his grades, or working to his ability?
He’s happy where he is. He has no reason to be resentful if offered the same… unless you’ve always had the means but didn’t bother for him, and precious little Princess always gets more - which I presume isn’t the case.
If he needs help academically, a tutor 1:1 will do more than a small group but still larger than 1:1 with a resentful child.
Is it a high performing school? If so, you also risk smashing his confidence become the thick kid.

Hello5688 · 02/11/2023 23:23

Hello i really need help.

my son had one taster day in independent school. He really loved it. Now they sent an email they want another taster day and head teacher wants to meet me. He loved the school. What do u think? Will she not offer space? What could it be? Ive attached the emAil they sent

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