Not leaving party for year 11

[Algarve3days]

What is the common thing in the UK? I think the school should have organised a leaving party. DD goes an independent secondary school but change to a state sixth form. I think it would have been nice for the school to do something. Or is it up to the kids to organise it?

DD is not worried and went away for a few nights with a few of her friends and had a dinner from school for a different event but just think they should have had a big party with DJ, etc. The dinner is pretty formal. I am just waiting for her and looked from outside and seem so serious and boring, but maybe is the old people table I can see, I can’t hear any music.

As a said DD is happy but is just me thinking.

It’s usually parent/student organised.

Ok. Thank you, Good to know it is not the school then and the common thing in all the schools. I just thought they were mainly interested in promoting their sixth form,

If most people stay on for sixth form it would be unusual to have a big leaving do for the year 11s. At DCs school they are having a y11 trip but no real leaving do until y13.

All the schools near us have a year 11 prom organised by the school.

A private school will want the students to stay on to the end. They aren't going to celebrate them leaving when they don't want them to leave. It's not 'the end'.

I guess it is more to do with being private and wanting the kids to stay; a trip would have been nice. It is disappointing imo, but it is all finished now, I think she enjoyed her 5 years there but time to move on. Hopefully the kids will do something after they collect the results.

Makes sense; it is all about the money after all

Same in state schools which have most people stay for sixth form. I think it is more of a thing where most students leave to go elsewhere.

Are they not having a prom?

My DDs school organised a prom for them - sit down meal then a big party.

No prom? How lovely that there are some schools that don't follow this awful US heteronormative tradition.

Glad DD seems content.

Most schools near us have proms in year 11, whether they go to year 13 or not. I don't think it's really heteronormative in the UK, at my dd's school people didn't go with dates, it's just a posh meal and then music and dancing.
Maybe it's different in private schools? It seems a shame they don't arrange anything, but I don't think we had anything thinking back.

Heteronormative? I've never known Year 11 proms to be anything to do with couples and 'dates' in the UK. It's a chance for them to get dressed up and have fun with their friends. Any students in couples are in existing relationships but the vast majority attend in friendship groups.

Yes no proms around here are geared around dates etc. They are for students of the school only so DS and none of his friends could take their girlfriends even if they wanted to. You dont have to go to Prom with someone you just go with a group of your friends, its nice for them to dress up and feel special for a little while and its nice that its before results so its just a celebration of having reached a milestone rather than a celebration of results which obviously won't apply to everyone.

'Herteronormative'?

'Proms' or end of year formal as they used to be called were never about dates or couples. You went with your group of friends and were like that till the enforced country dancing.
Who's up for the Dashing White Sargent? Reel of the 51st?

FFS.

A Y11 prom is just a fancy disco with their mates. No need to make it into anything more than that.