Tutor group allocation

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Whatkatyforgottodo · 19/06/2023 13:07

My daughter is really upset as she has been put in a tutor group with one other girl from her primary class who she doesn’t particularly get on with. Her closer friends are all on the other half of the year so she is unlikely to see them much. She doesn’t have any really good friends at primary so I wanted to encourage her to make new friends but she is very unhappy about being separated from the girls who she feels are her friends. Has anyone got any advice on how to support her through this so she isn’t miserable all summer? Thank you.

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HappiDaze · 19/06/2023 13:13

Ask the school to move her to a different tutor group asap whilst they're still open and before lots of other DC start asking to move

HappiDaze · 19/06/2023 13:15

I asked to move Form group 30 years ago and it made the world of difference to my happiness

Cite bullying or something like that to make it more dramatic

HappiDaze · 19/06/2023 13:16

Most schools, pretty much every school, will accommodate the move, give the names of other girls who's tutor group she'd like to join to give them something to work with

HauntedPencil · 19/06/2023 13:17

I would let her move at least to the half that she'll be near her friends in. It happened to my kid and I rang with a huge speil prepared but they were really free and easy about moving kids and let everyone move about.

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Whatkatyforgottodo · 19/06/2023 13:45

Thank you all. That sounds like it’s a lot easier than I thought it would be! I will contact the school.

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Someoneonlyyouknow · 19/06/2023 13:56

Have a chat with her before contacting the school. Ensure the girls she knows but isn't particularly friends with now are likely to include her if she changes groups. If they are an exclusive clique she may feel more lonely in their company

redskytwonight · 19/06/2023 15:23

How much of the time will she have to spend in her tutor group? At some schools it's really only for administrative purposes.
If your school timetables as two halves, I agree it might be worth asking if she can be moved to the other half.

Lisaquin01 · 19/06/2023 17:03

My daughter is just finishing year 7... she got put in a Tutor group with none of her friends but thankfully was with friends from outside clubs and is on the same side of the year as her bestie

Id ask for her to be moved to be honest... In your shoes I would have last year for sure

good luck

MargaretThursday · 19/06/2023 18:12

Not trying to be negative, but some schools ar3en't as easy as ask and you can be moved.
One of the reasons we chose our dc's school over the more popular one was the more popular one had a policy of never allowing any move whatsoever and then denying bullying when it happened
So you can ask, but it won't necessarily be as easy as some here are implying.

Moominmammacat · 20/06/2023 09:43

I asked out state secondary to keep my DS away from a boy who had tormented him since reception ... and he was never in a class with him for the entire seven years!

Ikeatears · 20/06/2023 09:52

Ds was in the same situation and school wouldn't move him initially. After 6 weeks of him being progressively upset, I insisted on the move and he hasn't looked back. He loves his form now and has made lots of friends.
Ds is quite shy when he doesn't know people but is actually very sociable once he's comfortable. He just needed the confidence of the back up of a couple of children he knew well and within days he'd made lots of new friends.
For 6 weeks in his old form, he struggled to be himself.
Insist on a move.

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