I'm following this thread with interest. Without my own first-hand experience, I appreciate you all sharing your thoughts on school reputations beyond the limitations of me simply looking at Ofsted inspections and academic results...
Ultimately, we all want the best for our children, and hope they are lucky enough to develop good friendships, enjoy their experience of school, seize opportunities, and reach their full potential - wherever the "magical computer algorithm" may allocate them a place!
Realistically, yes, I appreciate that certain schools may be better suited to different individuals - depending on the schools' focus on academic, creative, sporting, non-curricular, and pastoral provision. I guess that's where stating our school preferences comes in.
But there are so many unknowns that will influence their time at school, and we'll never know what challenges they might (or might not) face until something may (or may not) happen... Understanding how schools have previously responded to these challenges is definitely useful in decision making! All whilst appreciating that no two experiences will ever be the same, and everything is a bit of a roll of the dice anyway.
If I had to select my top concern, it would probably be student behaviour... How much of this is down to luck (individual students / tutor groups / year groups) and how much is school culture? My naive assumption is that behaviour should generally be better at a grammar school?
Not coming from a grammar school background ourselves, and feeling slightly ignorant of the whole process, we'll probably still have an attempt at the 11+ route all the same. But very aware that we'll also need to consider alternatives...