The ehcp definitely was confused as she said about why i didnt apply for asd unit at school 2. Which i said as its ehcp only. Dont you have ehcp -no, not likely to set one as no 'sen' meaning educationally behind. So they seemed to think should at least be in progress. And may have said you would be able to pick. Which as we are saying here is silly as kids with ehcp wouldnt likely be appealing necessarily (or at least it wouldnt mainly be ehcp appeals as its separate so just in progress ones. But imo also lacks understanding of which needs would get ehcp. And if not that then how hard it is to get one and how long it takes.
School didnt actua!ly ask me anything they stated things. Like 'the extra language is german'. Which isnt correct according to their own site it can be starting spanish or french too in y8...
The maths for coding. Their site says ideally be in sets 1-3 for maths.
Which isnt what i think she said i think she said its based on ks2 predictions though could be effectively the same.
Will she be in those sets who knows? However predicted only 106 due to not finishing past papers. However could easily score 109 right up to 120 as its accuracy errors so unpredictable. Shes as likely or more to go wrong on an easy question. Probably its the asd/adhd due to attention and slower processing etc.
With adhd meds could easily be 120. As the questions arent stretching enough.
Next time i would not
1 show a sen dc round a school it has caused lots of issues
2 would refer to the asd as aspergers and specifically say not learning issues and is ahead.
3 it is very hard to argue a case without being abrupt/rude when asked about say the schools which werent considered for what should be obvious reasons.
So actually i might have included why i only applied for these 2 in my letter.
Overall im angry as the provision of schools as what im fighting for should be standard. At least the school providing
Swimming
Extra lang
Computing gcse and a level
A standard timerable with lunch before 1:30
Not having one day a week with completely different times
Also ironically
School case says they choose to teach lang/math/science in classes of at least 32 in higher sets
School 2 told me at open day they were oversubscribed and went over so had some classes of 31+. (The oversubscribed isnt ever true..)
So even at the school which seems to have places,well either school chances are ddwill be in classes of over 30. Because it will depend how many kids end up at school 2 as if not ratio of 30 etc...
Obvious other irony being school 2 probably having an empty asd unit as parent using ehcp to go to school 1.
I would suggest panels need training on
Wait lists for assessment (we're in the refusal to assess unless severe area..)
Delays in getting ehcps
Who ehcps are for. (Yes maybe we could have applied, i looked it didnt really cover the issues and generally seems more for if behind). How could my dc cost 4k of school budget. ?? Shes seen the ed psych, having semh ta support.
Would obviously benefit from 1-2-1 and might actually have been doing her maths work.
Thing is we dont turn up to asd assessment etc to find 3 lay people deciding do we?
Having the tie lieky does seem minor but if the kid wont actually go. Wont wear it and ends up constant detention.
Likewise sports -they have to do them attitude, well no then youve been lucky not to know some sen kids. Dd hasnt been doing pe for years at primary. Even when ive paid for tennis she was collecting stones.
She didnt run on sports day y4 - noone noticed. So yes having swimming might seem minor but when she wont be doing any... Saying she wont buy footba!l boots wont do football. Plus it is actually good for asd sensory wise.
Yes clubs minor-or not? When she has no capacity after school to go out and do things. When she can start something and later refuse.
She already does coding -- but its only scratch and so far only has up to y6, most of which are going to school 1 so probably will code there.. So likely only be new y6.
I think with dd if she doesnt want to she wont, doesnt matter consequences.
She has no fear of head teachers etc. Its likely why shes not doing the maths -she can do it.
So in that light it was necessary to have a school she wants to go to.
What is the point if she wont get on/off the bus/leave the house.
I think most dont see how hard it is to make someone do something. You can do tbeir teeth for them/you can pester/you can reward or punish. But if someones determined then once you arent there doing those things to enable them then they dont do it. Punishnent doesnt work as everything escalates and end ul with other very severe issues. But also some things school doesnt communicate she isnt doing -like the music.
Not having experience but this has to be much worse than if dd had learning difficulties i mean mild like dyslexia as - the child isnt disliked by everyone. Isnt excluded from things.
At least the kid goes to school does their lessons. Everything is not a fight.
My child is constantly trying to win against me.
With added impulsivity.
Shes anxious and depressed - doesnt want to 'be here' as in alive. This is unrelated to secondary school issue.
Really has only one friend.
I had to give up on the music (the issue was they moved the lesson to break time). Without support from school (useless) she wasnt taking herself, was supposed to be collected but never was. She wouldnt go, occassionally maybe forgot. Missed 50%, expensive. Ihad involved school and they said she woukd be collected/reminded it didnt happen. (She had previously outright refused to go). We were in a cycle of her not going and getting in trouble losing kindle, going to room. Me angry at school. Even said to school due to sen can you put back out of lunchbreak no!! Ffs!
Failed by school (like several others in her year) issues were obvious in reception (hitting/biting/scratching)
I cant home ed as it took all day to get her todo the math in lockdowns.
Im sure secondary wont fully realise until she wont get off the bus wont do pe and wont go to maths...I
There not 1 kid in 60 who cared as much about which school.
Scouting has been amazing. Since she ran off on a hike with no warning. They really get it. And let her stay longer in cubs, even passed on her info to new leaders into scouts!!!
Whereas school wouldnt previously let her skip singing assembly. Even though ed psych was saying it.
Also note my friends sen dc wasnt invited to school 2 extra transition stuff. Again not severe sen no 1-2-1